I had a rather difficult interaction with my mother that left me feeling very hurt and in validated. I don't remember all of what she was saying but the gist of it made me feel like she was calling me crazy, like I don't know myself or what I want. She was saying it was because I never formed a strong sense of identity and had an overly negative view of men and wanted to get away from that.

She also said that she was afraid I was making some choice that was going to make me unhappy because other people wouldn't like it. I told her that was basically blaming the victim and asked if she would say the same thing to a gay person; she responded by saying that was innate whereas this was a choice. I said, okay, what about someone who faces disapproval due to religious beliefs? She said that was different because that's such a major part of who someone is... as opposed to this, I guess?

Idk I'm not looking for any advice, just to vent. I feel frustrated that she doesn't understand how I feel. Like, I don't care if you think I'm fine the way I am and like me as a guy, because I don't want to be this way, if that makes sense

Edit: oh I remember another thing she was saying was that it's fake because I don't feel like a woman... which is true but that doesn't mean I don't feel the way I'm feeling!