Hey girls, I have a quite intimate question. Nobody needs to answer it, just if you're comfy with it 🙂

In the - hopefully not so distant - future I'm going to start my HRT. I talked a lot about it with my cishet wife and she wants to go this way with me. The imagination that her atm quite manly wife will grow breasts, long hair, get hair removal etc. is tough, but she's willing to adapt. The only thing, she couldn't deal with, would be me getting bottom surgery...

On the one hand, I really like the thought of getting a vulva.... Like really, REALLY like it...

On the other hand, I couldn't bear the thought of ripping my marriage and our family (one 3yo child) apart.

To those of you, who kept their penises... How do you deal with dysphoria? What were your reasons for not getting bottom surgery? And lastly: Are you able to feel like the woman you are?

I know every way is individual.... but I hope to see my way clearer, when I hear of yours.