It's only been a few weeks since I made the switch to presenting fem around my friends and asking them to start using my new name and she/her pronouns, so I understand that they're going to make mistakes here and there. And I know the general piece of advice people give around this is to just immediately correct someone when they slip up and move along, but I find that every time I get hit with my deadname or a he/him I just freeze up and can't summon the willpower to speak up

I think there are a few things going on internally when this happens: one part of my is just reacting to getting misgendered, and no matter how much I know it was an accident it's still like a cold knife in the heart every time. But another part of my is internally reviewing the last minutes of conversation just to confirm "Wait was that he/him *really* referring to me? What if they were referring to someone else and I correct them and I look like I'm oversensitive and correcting people for no reason?" and so I end up on this delay before I even think to speak. And then there's just the part of my that is generally afraid to call attention to it or to come across as difficult or bothersome in anyway, and that makes it feel difficult to say anything at all. All of this ends up with me usually just being quiet and looking down until the conversation moves on and I try to forget anything happened

Has anyone else experienced something similar, and do you have any advice for getting over this internal fear of correcting people?