I get gendered correctly more often then not, only occasionally will someone call me 'sir' or whatever other masculine term. I wanna believe that that's because I'm passing enough that I actually look feminine to most people, but part of me thinks maybe everyone can tell and that many people where I live are just respectful enough to gender me correctly despite me not passing.

I legit don't know though. Like one time I was waiting for my boyfriend to use the bathroom at the grocery store and the women's bathroom was being cleaned. While I was waiting the employee cleaning it poked her head out and asked if I needed to use the bathroom.

She wouldn't have done that if I wasn't passing right? Like I'd like to think at least she couldn't tell.