Hiyas, bit of info about my situation. I'm 24 & living at home. So I finally hatched a few months ago and over those few months I've really come to terms with who I am. I'm out to my friends (mostly online) and they've all been wonderful and I'm starting to get used to she/her pronouns and it genuinely feels nice when people use them.
On the flip side, especially over Christmas seeing extended family, Ive started to get tired/annoyed of being referred to as he/him and hearing my legal name from my family.

They don't know yet so it's not their fault but this, combined with wanting to start the New Year as my true self have really made me want to come out to my family (mum, brother, sister in law) but I'm super anxious and can't bring myself to do it.

I wanted to tell them in person but I'm afraid I won't be able to say the right things or get out the necessary information. I thought about sending a message and even wrote one up, and have also considered a letter but it feels wrong somehow? Like I'm avoiding the situation.

I want to come out to my brother and his partner first because I'm fairly certain they will be supportive as they're open minded and have always been incredibly good to me.

My mother I'm a bit concerned over her initial reaction and shock and I'm scared she will overeact and say something that may upset me especially about changing my chosen name but overall I think she will be supportive once the dust settles and she has some time.

Anyway. I'm in this huge slump right now because it's killing me inside but I just don't know if I can or how I can get this information out.

Any advice would be super appreciated and for those who had similar feelings, how did you overcome it.