I see it everywhere and how adamantly people fight to say it’s okay is a little baffling to me. Most people have said they don’t wanna tell someone their medical history or say that you’re just like any other woman and it would invalidate their experience and identity, which I understand but at the same time I’m having a hard time seeing the reasoning behind it. You guys don’t have to explain yourselves I just want to have an honest conversation about this so that I may understand it much better than what I am currently doing. My only concern is that it’s very dangerous and can end with someone being murdered or seriously hurt. Why seek out some cis persons validation when they could hurt you for not disclosing one of the most beautiful thing about yourself? Is it to fit in with the rest of the cis folks or is it something else? Are we not trans woman? Is there something about telling potential partners and especially sexual partners that we’re trans that you feel wouldn’t make you feel like a woman? Are we not supposed to be proud of our identities? Do you not want to be trans?

P.s. when I use you and they I’m attempting to talk about the woman in mind who I’ve experienced this with. I am not including all woman including myself because not all of us may feel this way. I also did not create this to be yelled, I genuinely wish to understand to inform myself because my comments on such a thing has either gone unaddressed or I’ll just get an upvote or two.

Edit: I’m not trolling nor was that ever my intent. I wanted an answer to a question a lot of people on here have ignored or just out right attacked me for even brining it up. After reading several comments I can now see why some people do it and why others don’t. It’s preference and other times it’s a safety thing which is what I initially assumed. Thank you to everyone who shared your thoughts on this matter. I look forward to discussing more problematic things within our community in the future.