Let’s start by how are you? How was your day? Hope everything went well because I am sure you deserve it  

First off, I really want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I know there are countless messages like mine, so I truly appreciate that you're giving mine a chance.  

To be upfront, I’m a sub/switch guy, and I’m looking for an incredible woman to please. Let me tell you, I’ve been searching for you for quite some time now.   But that’s definitely not my main focus. Above all, I want to truly connect with someone I can share everything with—from the mundane to the kinkiest thoughts and desires. I’m not looking for someone to fulfill only a specific role, and I certainly don’t want only a “kink dispenser.” The chemistry has to be there. Trust is the most important thing to me.   I really want to build something genuine. I want to wake up in the morning and check my phone, hoping to see a message from you—even if it's just a simple “good morning & have a great day!” I want to able to share life’s little moments with you, and I hope you’ll want to do the same, too. I believe openness is key, and I’m not asking for full transparency right away, but I want us to be able to connect honestly.  

Though I lean toward being really submissive, I can also be a little bratty at times. In my everyday life, I’m an authority figure, the one who leads and makes the decisions. That's one of the reasons why I’m really drawn to the idea of a strong woman who knows exactly what she wants and isn’t easily swayed by a “little resistance” 😉sometime in our dynamic. I’ve experienced situations where my partner doubted herself and I don’t want that—I want us to be confident in our roles and decisions.  

I'm not just after a physical connection; I’m looking for an emotional bond built on trust, respect, and mutual understanding. I want us to explore each other’s desires, pushing boundaries together while respecting what’s important to both of us. Even in the sub role, I want you to feel just as fulfilled as I do. I’m not seeking a professional dominatrix—I’m open to discovering this dynamic with someone, whether you’re experienced or not. .  

I approach everything seriously, but I know that this kind of relationship requires honesty. There’s no point in pretending to be someone you’re not; if we’re not genuine with each other, it won’t last.  

A bit about me: I’m a guy in my late 40s from Montreal, Canada. I’ve been in this lifestyle for over 20 years. I speak both French and English, though I still make the occasional mistake from time to time. I’m 5’7” with blonde hair and blue eyes, and I have a dad bod/curvy style (so definitely not the super muscular type if that’s your preference—don’t expect to see ‘Magic Mike’ 😉). I’m open to sharing pictures, voice notes, or even video chats.

To me, what’s truly sexy isn’t about a specific look or body type—it’s about confidence, personality, and the connection we share. I’ll never pressure you for pictures, voice notes, or videos. I just hope that, over time, you’ll feel comfortable enough to share with me.  

That said, I’d like to build trust before exchanging NSFW photos or personal content. In my everyday life, I consider myself successful and in the right place. I’m a big hockey fan and I play 2 to 3 times a week. I’m not at all in a disorganized or chaotic dynamic. I’ve been sharing my life with an extraordinary partner for over 18 years and have a 20-year-old teenager. If you want, I’ll be able to introduce you to Jack, my German Shepherd. 😊 

However, sometimes life throws you lemons, and it’s up to you to decide whether or not you make lemonade. Four years ago, illness struck and completely shattered the 'sexual' part of our couple’s life. But I will never quit nor abandon her. She has always known that my sexuality is and was quite different from what is considered the 'normal' vanilla type. But that has never been an issue for her. One day, when I feel the time is right, I’ll be able to share exactly what happened. She is fully aware of my needs and knows that I’m here looking for someone to talk to.

Being in this situation, you can understand that I will never demand exclusivity from you. Our life are already so complex, and I could never judge you—I’d rather understand you and share with you. But if it’s something that’s absolutely important to you, I’m really sorry to see you go, but I completely understand.

I don't limit myself to a specific age range. What's important is that we're on the same page together.  

Now, for the obligatory part: yes, I have limits and preferences. For example, I’m a big toy enthusiast 😊, with almost all the collection of Lovense toys. Being controlled by someone is a top desire of mine. I’m also into chastity, bondage, JOI, CEI, orgasm control and denial, ruined orgasms, edging, CBT, roleplay, sexting, and probably more that I haven’t even explored yet. But what excites me the most is pushing my limits for you. I love seeing how far you can take me. I have, let's say, a rather significant collection of toys and accessories.

I'm absolutely not looking for a pro dom, in fact I don't even care if you don't have any experience in this lifestyle let's do it together. I will work super hard to make the scenarios and tasks as authentic as possible and to provide that little extra that will make the difference for you. I want you to experience or feel even more pleasure than I had in carrying them out. It’s absolutely a must for me.

However, I’m not into anything illegal, violent, permanent, or anything that crosses boundaries like blood, urine, or feces or under age.

Please, I would love if you could be in the eastern time zone (New York time) I don't mind -2 or 2/3 hours. otherwise I think it's impossible to communicate. Chance of being live at the same time is almost impossible otherwise  

I apologize for any mistakes in my English. I’ve spent lots of time writing and revising this, it should be ok  

I know you're out there, and I just hope something about this message caught your attention. If so, please reach out and say hi!, I would love to talk to you.

I would really appreciate it if you could specify that you've read my message here if you contact me on another platform, just so I don't waste time with scammers.

You can find me on most platforms under the username Lexter76.

Dying to meet you