Hello! I appreciate you taking the time to read my post, and I value said time, so I've organized this into the most likely deal breakers upfront, some general information about me, and then what I'm looking for and what I'm not. Let's get to it!

Likely deal breakers

I'm not looking for a "kink dispenser" and I'm not looking to be someone else's either; my search is genuine and I'm looking for the same in you. I would never dream of using honorifics right out of the gate, so I ask that you don't either until we've formed at least a base understanding of each other.

I'm most politically in line with folks like AOC and Bernie Sanders, I'm closest spiritually to Agnostic-Atheism, and I'm ethically non-monogamous, non-hierarchically polyamorous, and have been happily married for over 7 years.

I'm non-binary and "classically" male presenting, but generally a little murky on my gender identity.

In regards to my location and preferred age range, I live in Kitsap County which is closest to Seattle (East of me) as the crow flies and Tacoma (South of me) as the car drives, and while I don't have a strict age preference, I do prefer someone with relative life experience so "millennial aged" is probably ideal.

I'm personally drug free but not opposed to those who use recreationally. I'm also free of all sexually communicable diseases and I'd like to stay that way, so before anything physical happens I'd ask that we share clean tests for peace of mind.

And lastly for those with allergies/aversions, I have two adorable cats (American Shorthairs, aka Standard Issue Cats) and one equally adorable dog (Pomeranian).

About me basics

I'm a huge nerd all around. I love learning, I'm a big fan of all the sciences both realized and (presently) fictional, and I profoundly enjoy things like etymology. I'm very much into video games, particularly RPGs, and would love to find someone to play them with. I also adore curling up with a good (or wonderfully awful) movie or two, binging a TV series both new and old, and just relaxing and listening to music. Other favored leisure activities include reading, camping, hiking, and trying my hand at crafts like carving. Work wise, I have a seasoned career in software development, and while I both love and hate it, I do at least get to work from home full time so for that I'm thankful; nothing beats meetings in comfy pajamas.

What I'm looking for

First and foremost, I'm looking for a best friend and partner to fall truly and deeply in love with. Someone both willing and able to put in the presence and mutual hard work that building such a thing requires. Someone with whom to challenge, support, build, and lift each other up with. Someone with whom to cheer each other on towards being our best selves in the dynamic we build and the lives we lead both together and apart.

Second, I'm looking for someone who understands her own desires, wants, and needs at their most basic levels. You by no means need to "have it all figured out", I don't think anyone has that, but I am looking for someone who can meet me in open, active, and often times vulnerable communication to both build the aforementioned dynamic and address the normal lemons life hands us like insecurities, hiccups, and other icky feelings.

Within a relationship, I best express my love, gratitude, and appreciation for my partner through acts of service. I naturally gravitate towards support roles, and feel most fulfilled when caring for my partner's domestic, physical, intellectual, and emotional needs. How I feel most loved and appreciated in return is through praise, encouragement, affirmations, and (generally) non-sexual physical touch. Intimately and on the kink side, I strongly resonate with Gentle FemDom/Mommy types who are caring and kind to me emotionally and physically, and playfully mean to me sexually.

I'm an experimentalist to my core, and I relish finding new and inventive ways of giving and receiving pleasure. I'm lucky to have had such a wide range of experiences in life thus far; they both open my mind to a wider range of ideas and empower me with firm understandings of my likes and dislikes. While I overall enjoy a great many things, I most enjoy the pleasures of the mind ("sexting", roleplaying, sharing stories/fantasies/naughty media), light humiliation and control (like consensual cuckolding IRL or as fantasy, chastity and denial, and "kind" SPH), and most importantly, gentle, loving, and intimate sexy snuggles, cuddles, and exploration. In regards to limits, the obvious illegal ones apply, as does scat, abandonment, non-consensual abuse, anything feet related, and sissification.

And that about does it! I'm eager to hear from you if you think we'd match. Take care!