Experienced, confident lifestyle Domme looking to meet my match and build a cozy life together. I am seeking a thrilling yet sustainable long-term romance supported by a foundation of mutual respect, reciprocated attraction, deep trust, a shared worldview, tons of filth and kink. Looking for a smart, self-aware and service-oriented gentleman between 28 - 45.

SFW (ish) photos available if we connect

What I'm Seeking

I want to live an authentic life alongside someone with whom I can share my full complex self. I want to be charmed by all your idiosyncrasies and create an easy but intense connection with someone who lights me up. I am looking for a relationship that blends an established and pervasive Ds dynamic with sweet romance. I want to feel giddy thinking about you. If you're only seeking kink, I'm not the lady for you. That said, BDSM is a core aspect of my sexuality. As a dominant woman, I consider myself a traditional domme. Not soft enough to be a Mommy, though I am quite nurturing and kind. Not strictly seeking a punching bag, though I am genuinely and enthusiastically sadistic and strict. I want to be the authority figure and breaker of all ties in our happy FLR.

My kinks
I enjoy both sexual and non-sexual expressions of BDSM. I want a partner who feels at home within his desire to serve, submit, and truly embrace my guidance and training. I have a kink list as long as my arm which falls in and out of rotation but some of my favorite acts include body worship, erotic breastfeeding, crossdressing (though less into sissification these days), orgasm control/tease & denial/chastity, lifestyle control, painplay (particularly cbt and spanking), pegging, breeding, objectification and a whole lot more. I have a weakness for well-endowed submissive men who enjoy topping for piv but can remain in a submissive headspace while being my toy. Not an easy line to walk, but so much fun for those who can.

More about me
I am a bbw black woman in my 30's. Mutual attraction is important to me so I'm happy to verify and will want to see you pretty quickly. I have a career I enjoy that takes up a fair amount of my time. In my free time, I am an avid reader, habitually crafter, and passionate about live music and the arts. I have never met a musical comedy I didn't love, I am learning to rollerskate and enjoy crocheting. I travel a fair amount for business and pleasure so would love someone who enjoys new experiences.

Who I am looking for
I am looking for a smart, mature, self-possessed charmer near my age whose kinks and vanilla interests align with my own. I am bi and both cis and trans folks are welcome to reach out. I have a soft spot for the clingy types, even if it takes a while to unlock that particular character trait. I am looking for someone confident in their desire to submit to another.

I tend to pour a lot of myself into my relationships so I am looking for someone who has the time and energy to match my contribution. I have been happy in both monogamous and polyamorous relationship styles but am dating with intent to find a relationship that would ideally end in marriage and a family. I am not likely to interact with anyone 28 and under, married or attached looking without the knowledge of your partner, or looking for strictly Ds dynamic.