I am NOT INTERESTED in online play. Your first messages have to be SFW or they will be reported. Reddit does a decent job in dealing with the harassers.

__Introduction__

I live in Amsterdam but I am moving to Porto next month and, the idea for now, is to live there for about 3 years even though this is not set in stone. I am open to meeting people from anywhere as long as they can meet me in Porto.

I am looking for a sweet sub, who is always respectul and classy. I am dominant in and outside the bedroom - with consent. Check out what I am looking for in details here and on my profile (s), before messaging me. Take the full test on bdsmtest.org. If the results for "switch" are higher than 10%, please do not message me.

Check my profile for my limits, etc.

I am always interested in making new friends who share values and hobbies with me, specially if they like to play party board games or want to join me at rock/metal concerts.

__About me__

I am a progressive and vegan metalhead and I love being at home watching movies, videos and series (currently watching Evil and enjoying it, join me?), I love reading, I am a fan of anything horror/true crime, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), being in nature/in the water and swimming. I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general and hope we can influence each other positively, in that regard. The weather is nice now, you could give me a foot massage at the beach :)

I am very bossy but I also have a gentle side and I am very romantic and loving. I give a lot of attention and compliments, lots of hugs and kisses and compliments to my sub. Don't expect praise for every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication, and that I love a sub who pays attention to details.

None of these kinks can be among your limits, as they are big for me: foot worship, humiliation and CBT, if that applies to your gender. I have a mommy fetish when I am dating people who are some years younger than me, but be mature, be stable and consistent.

Even though I would be open for relocation, it would only be within the Schengen Zone until 2026, after that, I am more flexible. This is up for discussion with a potential partner.

All of my relevant kinks are either here or on the link you can click on my profile. Whatever you don't see, it is not big for me. If you think I might like something related to a fetish you see that I have, you can ask me about it.

This is me: https://imgur.com/a/Yqn7MAu.

__What I am looking for__

As the title says, I prefer people who are younger than me. You have to worship pussy only, not dicks, ever. I like the intellectual/nerdy type. You have to be single and not dating anyone or anything like it.

I am looking for a subby boyfriend/girlfriend who is *Caucasian* or *East Asian*.

Your cock size has to be at least 14 cm (unless you want to be a cucky boyfriend) and if it is smaller than 18 cm you can expect some SPH - you have to give me a good size or you give me your pride... just kidding, you have to give me your pride, either way. If there is no connection and long term goals, I have zero interest in humiliating you. Even though I have a size requirement, I do not want an agressive, arrogant guy, like guys with big dicks often seem to be.

When it comes to men, I prefer them to be more or less 1,75m or taller. I am not into very chubby guys.

I am looking for someone who makes efforts to be a decent person, as I do. That includes, among other things, respecting the animals' lives, which means you have to be vegan or want to become vegan and this is a requirement. I am for a more compassionate world, where we treat people, animals and the Earth with consideration.

The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic veggies and flowers together, have cozy moments watching horror movies and doing marathons of series under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me.

I like to see a relationship evolving. Please be someone who is open about their feelings and if you don't know yourself enough to even say what you expect from a partner, have the will to do some soul searching... Therapy? Psychedelic plants? I want you to be able to tell me what makes you happy and what you need from me. I would prefer to be with someone who would be willing to do couples' therapy, at least if we face some difficulties.

I am open to feedback from someone I care about, as long as it is respecful. I want a relationship in which we never go to sleep upset with each other, even if we go through deeply into whatever issue it is, later on, when I am in a long term relationship, we should always say we love each other before we go to sleep :)

I know how to keep a place clean and organized, and I expect those qualities from you.

Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on (figuratevely and literally), being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights. I do not want to hear any BS about "whoever was born here deserves more", kind of talk. I am an immigrant so it is fair to assume I am against xenophobia.

I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and a rabbit too :)
Eventually, I am looking for something that will evolve to a female led marriage and I want someone who is into regular couple things too, like vanilla sex, so please have a functioning dick that gets hard for simply being inside a pussy, with no need of kink for arousal.

__How to contact me_

CLEAR FACE PICTURE OR A VIDEO OF YOU TALKING, ON YOUR FIRST MESSAGE, IS A REQUIREMENT. I do not want to get any word, from anyone, about anything, if it does not contain a face picture. I am old fashioned like that, I like to see who I am talking with.
DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON. I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like, so if after reading my ad, you decide to send me a message, make sure it is a well written message: Don't overuse slang and don't use "lol", cut off words like "rn" or use too much emojis. Use punctuation! Know the difference between "your and "you're".

If you decide to message me, let me know why you think we could be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share. Also include your height and weight in meters/kg.

Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Inform me on your fist message if you expect monogamy or not. It is important that, if you don't live in the same city as me, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and that you can travel soon for a first meeting. I will expect relevant questions from a possible candidate and I will expect that we make plans for an immediate future (when we could meet, what vanilla activities we could do together), and that we talk about our expectations and logistics of having a life together, if we match so well.

If I answer you and state that you are attractive, it is time for you to: 1- send me a quick video of you saying something (saying whatever, don't ask me what to say), post it on Imgur or wherever and send me the link, do not ask me for any contact outside of Reddit before I see the video. Make sure to let me see the color of your eyes well on it. If I confirm that you are my type after seeing the video, 2 - Send me the results of the full test on bdsmtest.org, 3 - Send me the answers to my Questionnaire that is on my profile on Fetlife. I will not engage in much conversation with you before you do these 3 things.

I am happy to grow old with one person, if we are a match made in heaven :)

P.S.: Men don't like cuddles anymore? All I see is men posting things like: "I have this amount of fetishes and I want someone to do them with." Not very subby, but rather demanding and objectifying, if you ask me.