Hi there!

I'm here looking to meet a woman and chat about life, hopes, dreams, and hopefully find my person in the process!

Someone emotionally available and willing to meet regularly in person is preferable. Ideally somebody local or reasonably close to the Portland, Oregon area within about 2-4 hours driving distance.

About Me

Personal facts and Physical Appearance

I work as a Network Engineer for a small IT MSP and live in the Tualatin/Sherwood area. I live alone and have one pet in my home. I am 6 feet tall. Hazel eyes, short brown hair and facial hair, am broad shouldered and on the chubby side physically.

Personality

Personality wise I'd say I'm pretty even tempered. I love to joke around and be silly. I love conversation and am reasonably intelligent as well. I am honest, loyal, dutiful, kind, affectionate, and aim to please. I am, of course, nowhere near perfect. But I have a longing to grow and hope I can do so with someone special.

Interests

I'm a mega nerd but I'd like to think I carry it well. My pastimes include gaming (Usually involving D&D or video games like Soulslikes or MetroidVania games), tinkering (fixing computers, radios, or any other electronic devices,) movies/TV (mostly high-fantasy, comedy or sci-fi, also serious drama,) going on long walks, cooking, and going to the beach.

What I bring to the table

I feel like I would make a very good partner. I am a great listener and love going out of my way to make my partners feel wanted, needed, loved, and appreciated. I am also very handy around the house. Being an engineer means I know how to fix a lot of stuff and I generally like being helpful. And since I'm tall I am very good at reaching for things on high shelves ;).

My Needs and And Work I've Done for Myself

I am currently in the middle of and have made major lifestyle changes and am taking an active effort to improve my physical health and wellbeing.

I regularly go to therapy and am continually working on being emotionally self aware. My primary love languages are physical touch/words of affirmation and my attachment style is Anxious/Preoccupied. I've learned secure attachment skills to help mitigate the latter and am constantly working on being better version of myself. If you have questions or concerns about either of these let me know.

Who I am seeking

Personality

I am seeking someone caring and affectionate who likes taking charge when the need arises. They are strong, confident, Funny, Forthright, Compassionate, Nurturing, Encouraging and supportive. Someone kind and loving but with a bit of a subtle and playful mean streak who loves to tease their partner. But most importantly, she has a solid footing in her own life and is emotionally mature.

Compatibility and Interests

Being able to have chemistry outside of a dynamic and enjoy each other's company is very important to me. I would prefer to start with conversation and have a couple dates. If there's a spark we can and see how things go from there. To be clear, ultimately I am looking for a relationship where equal partnership outside of kink is important to both of us.

Having similar interests to my own or similar enthusiasm for their own hobbies and interests is a plus! (Nerdy Girls to the front!!!) I get very excited when people share all the things that turn their gears with me and I'm always open to learning about new activities that we can share.

Preferred Domme and Relationship Style

Ideally I'd want a partner who is interested in Gentle Femdom (GFD) Or Mommy Dom who is open to extending the dynamic outside of the bedroom. Whether or not our relationship extends out into full FLR territory would be a discussion. But I know I would want some elements of that in play. I would of course be ok with taking breaks and just being a normal couple as well. It doesn't have to be a 24/7 365 thing. The last thing I'd want to do is burn you out. I understand taking the dominant role can be exhausting and I want to make your life as easy as I possibly can.

NSFW/Sexual Details

The following are brief descriptions of the kind of play I'd like to engage in. I want to preface this by saying that none of these are "Must haves". I just want people to be able to gauge our potential compatibility.

I am open to negotiation with these and want to have a discussion on how we can have a mutually fulfilling dynamic.

Likes and Kinks

• Performing acts of service/submission
  
• Discipline training
• Giving and receiving praise or words of affirmation.
• Orgasm Control, Tease/denial and Chastity play
• Prostate/Anal training and pegging
• Adult Nursing
• Roleplay/creative writing as part of submission
• Light pain/Impact Play
• Playful and Private humiliation/name calling or pet names.

Limits and hard No's:

• FinDom
• extreme pain/CBT
• extreme public humiliation or degradation.
• Sissification
• Asphyxiation
• cutting/scarification or blood play
• Race or Age play
• Watersports/Scat/Vomit
• Blackmail

Thanks for reading! If you have any questions please let me know! Have a great day!