please note: my main reddit is glitching right now, so the reason this account appears to be dead is because its my throwaway :) we can chat on whatever platform you’re comfortable with.

PLEASE NO MEN! this includes men with couples!

What I’m looking for {} I’m looking into kink as a way to find deeper healing from my traumatic childhood. I crave a caregiver/mommy style dynamic. Heavier on the caregiving part. I want gentle coaxing, and understanding. Comforting. Someone to dote on me and help me feel loved. I want to have some decisions taken from me so my mind can breathe a little. I have some mental health issues (currently controlled, but still unpleasant at times) and chronic illness, so I would love to be taken care of when i’m ill. Lots of reassurance. Over time, I would like you to be able to learn my patterns to help me through difficult times. I would like to be able to call you mommy, and it makes me feel safe when you occasionally refer to yourself as such. Someone to generally vent to (within your own boundaries regarding topics). I would love to be collared (i would need to be able to remove the collar when given permission). Check ins to make sure i’m getting everything done and a punishment/reward system. I have a bit of a bratty streak.

I am already in a long distance relationship, so ideally I would like someone within driving distance of me. My other partner is fully aware and okay with what im doing. I love to be held. Physical touch is my love language. Reassuring touches, soft voices are the things that help me feel safe. I love back and head scratches.

In terms of sex, I love to play. I can be a bit hard to play with at first - full disclosure. I have a lot of limits, and I expect safe words to be respected and check ins to happen throughout. I am a survivor of rape, and a separate sexual assault. so this is very important. I like being talked through things. Everything you do needs to be slow. penetration hurts me really easily - i am open and wanting to work on it, but SLOWLY. I tend to put way too much pressure on myself to orgasm. help me focus on the sensations i’m feeling. Orgasming can be hard for me. I’m pretty desensitized. lube is a must - lots of it. i want to become more in tune with my body. but i am definitely kinky :) i am also plus size if that matters.

Why I should be your little/sub {} I’m extremely loyal. Once I form an attachment to you, it’s strong and will stay. I’ve been through a lot at my young age and am willing and wanting to be a listening ear. There aren’t really many topics that will trigger me just by talking about it. i love to make little presents for people - whether that be an inexpensive item or homemade. I love giving words of affirmation. I tend to make people laugh a lot. i’m on a journey of healing and i would love nothing more than to show the right woman their own power in helping others through domination/caregiving while also feeling safety in submission and the love i’ve craved from a woman for so long (my bio mom is abusive, so that’s where that comes from)

if this sounds like you, please dm me with your asl and an SFW pic if you’re comfy! looking forward to meeting you :)