Iteration and revision: two practices I try to live by as a creative, a writer, a person, and as an aspiring Domme. That's why this ad is so different than my previous ones. I realized I was, despite my best efforts not to, putting myself in a box--and letting past experiences turn me off from giving certain things another shot, potentially costing me a chance at the one I'm hoping to find.

I'm looking for a partner and a submissive; romance and kink; a relationship and dynamic; my muse and my canvas; and my forever brat and the love of my life. I'm only interested in a long-term, monogamous relationship and something that lasts. No hookups or one-off's. The real deal or bust. Fine with it starting online as a LDR, but the goal is a 24/7, IRL LTR.

Me (the person):

I'm childfree (gettting a vasectomy this year), monogamous, single, mom to a special needs dog, on sabbatical for my mental/physical health and changing careers, 420- and psychedelic-friendly, sober, non-religious but spiritually open-minded, married/divorced.

A good friend's take on me: "It's cute how you admire beauty in a way that could kill you haha it just shakes you to the core and you start redefining things compared to it."

I'm 5'7", a size 8 (165 lbs) and working my way down to a size 6. I've got a little more squish than I'd like but I'll shed it soon enough. I have a chest tattoo with plans for more, and two facial piercings. I'm on the thicc side "downstairs" jsyk. I've been on HRT for 5 years and am non-op. I'm also a lesbian. Here are some photos of me in lieu of more words.

I say what I mean and make every effort to do what I say. I will never ask something of you that I would not do or offer myself. I will tell you how grateful I am for you, and why, as often as I can through my words, actions, and the occasional handmade gift. I will take and break as much of you as you'll permit me to, never any less, never any more. I will never let you doubt or wonder where you stand with me. I love to take care of the people I love, but I need to be taken care of too sometimes. I might be the Domme, but I have soft spots, trauma, and aches like any other human. Mommies and Daddies cry too. I'll cook for you and even feed you if that's your thing ("choo chooooo").

Self-growth and introspection are 24/7 priorities for me. Therapy has helped me flourish. My 4-year-old deaf dog has saved my life more than once. Shared laughter and the ability to also share silence without discomfort are two of my biggest green flags in any potential relationship (romantic or otherwise).

I savor any chance to be creative–writing, making art, building something, you name it. I enjoy thrifting, antiquing, spending time with my dog, binging my favorite shows like it’s my job, roller-skating (former derby girl), some light gaming, board games, farmer’s markets, interior design, and using my Instapot as often as I can. I'd love to start traveling (I have a tentative goal of seeing the Northern Lights in Finland next year), and honestly, plenty of other stuff and some that rotate in/out as the year goes on. I like to dabble until I find my niche.

Here is more about me as a person.

Me (sexually):

I'm a hedonist. I like trying new things. Overindulgence is my bread and butter. If you give me free reign of your body, I will run with it. Likewise, use my body as your playground. Tease me. Indulge me. I want us to have plenty of kinks in common and even discover new ones together. I want to memorize every curve, dimple, mole, freckle, scar, and tattoo on your body; I want to learn how your body works, what it responds to, and how to turn you into an absolute puddle.

Things that give me life (must-haves):

• Making Out (like a couple of rabid teenagers)
• CNC
• Being Penetrated (fingers or a strap-on)
• Cock & Pussy Worship
• Discipline
• Ass Play
• Hickies

Would be really nice to have:

• Humiliation and/or Degradation

Hard Limits:

• ABDL
• Bestiality
• Furries
• Scat/Blood/Vomit
• Micromanaging Your Life

While my default preference has usually been for "Mommy," I would absolutely let the right brat call me "Daddy". Hell, I'd expect her to be screaming it in my ear if she's the real deal... not even kidding. I don't let labels or words invalidate me, and so whether you're looking for a Mommy or Daddy Domme, I'm game for either. If you're my girl, it's all gravy, baby. <3

Relationship Goals:

• Unapologetically and proudly showing each other off however and whenever possible. PDA all day. Let me grab your ass at the grocery store, then give me head in the parking lot before we leave because I bought the ingredients to make your favorite meal.
• Challenging each other to go further, whether it's professionally, romantically, or sexually. Put your brattiness to use; sass me up. Give me a reason to get creative with your punishments.

You:

Physical attraction is important to me, but I'd pick undeniable compatibility, a great personality, phenomenal laugh, and an intoxicating voice over anything else. Age gaps are hot so younger women are A-OK with me and preferred.

You're emotionally intelligent and articulate. Bonus: also literate. Curious. Growth oriented. Self-aware and mindful. You know how to communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries in a productive way. You'll challenge me and push me to be better, but you won't push me away emotionally (i.e., you don't have an avoidant attachment style). You practice reciprocity. You're not uncomfortable with shared silence. You love dogs and don't have any 'prey' animals as pets. You understand and appreciate the power of therapy. You value all forms of self-expression. You're not perfect and don't expect perfection. You want to explore and grow with someone. You're not looking to be fixed, or to fix me. Childfree.

If this sounds like you, and I sound like someone you'd genuinely want to know, understand, and could see yourself loving one day send me a DM and include the word "Echo" in the subject so I know you've read this. (That's my dog's name, btw.) Tell me about yourself. Include some photos. Make an effort like I have. Show me how excited you are to have finally found me, because I'll never stop showing you.