TW: infant loss . . . . . . After a LBWC diagnosis at 18 weeks, it was understood my best friend would lose her baby, whether in pregnancy or shortly after birth. At about 5 or 6 weeks before her due date, she delivered her baby on Sunday and the baby passed away shortly after. I went over and deep cleaned their house while they were at the hospital and went to see her in the hospital and held the baby and such; she came home yesterday. I went to see her, just sat with her and she talked and showed me pictures and stuff, it was a good visit. She had a C-Section so she’ll be healing from that as well. I also took her a box of peppermint tea to help dry up her milk as it started to come in.

My question is, for mothers who have been through losing a child… what did you need? How often should I text and check in with her? I’m terrified of bugging her or overwhelming her.

I plan on going over to do laundry and stuff, which I’ve been doing since the middle of her pregnancy, so we have that established that I know how she likes things. I’m honestly the only person besides her husband and mom that’s even been involved in her life through this pregnancy.

My husband and I are broke as a joke so I can’t buy much. But I can offer a helping hand, I’ve never dealt with this myself, and want to know how best to support and hold her in this, without having to ask her because I know she’s in a daze right now.

Thank you ladies ❤️