My husband has been out of town for over a month, won’t be home until Christmas. I never celebrated Halloween as a kid ever, so I have absolutely no emotional connection to it and don’t care about it. My oldest is 3 years old and has never done Halloween (I had her before he and I got together), and we have a 1 year old together.

He has great memories from doing Halloween as a kid and he wants them to do it too. I’m not morally opposed to Halloween like I used to be, but I have literally nothing prepared and he texted me that he wants them to go trick-or-treating. I have no idea how to and no interest in doing it by myself and my oldest isn’t even really aware of it so she won’t care either.

I was just going to have her help me bake some cookies and have a cuddle movie night. But he is absolutely guilt tripping me and pulling the “I’m the daddy what I says goes” card. I’m not trying to be difficult but he’s making it into a whole thing and he’s not even here. I do everything else myself with the kids and house care and honestly the thought of scrambling to get everything set up for it sounds terrible.

Am I being unreasonable, because he’s making me feel like crap about it 🙄

Edit: he dropped the issue and says it’s fine that I don’t. Thanks everyone for your validation that I’m not being crazy 😹