This question is for moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, anyone really!

My baby is lucky enough to have 4 living grandparents who love her very much. However, with my husband’s parents we have had a lot of issues (especially boundary related).

I have no doubt they want the best for her, but they unfortunately are so emotionally immature that they are often extremely hurtful due to being so focused on their own emotions over everything else. You could be telling them the sky is blue and if they FEEL the sky is red, they will insist you are lying, and demand to know WHY would you be so hurtful and rude as to lie to them! They are quite narcissistic and unfortunately I am often their target since I am married to their only son, which has resulted in a lot of issues and marriage counseling between me and my husband.

Our marriage counselor insists that having grandparents in our child’s life is better than not having them at all regardless of how toxic they are. She says it’s so important for her development to witness culturally where her parents come from.

Is this really something that is that important? I had 4 grandparents for the majority of my childhood but I don’t remember being very close to any of them. They also live very far from us and they would only be seeing my baby once a year at the most.

I also worry that MY continued acceptance of their abuse, even for the sake of my daughter, sets a bad example for her that it’s sometimes okay to tolerate disrespect.