my husband is in the military, and we’re in the process of moving. i’m living with my parents for the month while i wait for my visa, while my husband has gone ahead to get everything set up.

my husband is a great guy, and i don’t worry that he’s cheating on me or anything like that.

long distance has just been kind of hard for me so far because he’s not the most expressive person over the phone. when we were dating, it made me wonder how interested he was in me, because he wasn’t the best texter/caller. in person though, our chemistry was amazing, and obviously, i learned that’s just how he is over the phone, which i’ll gladly take over the reverse. plus we spend most of our time together so it’s rarely a problem.

and i get that once the month is over, we will be right as rain, and things will be okay. but i’m a very expressive person, and words of affirmation is my love language. i don’t feel unloved, but it feels like he’s very neutral towards me, which i know isnt actually the case. but it still leaves me wanting more from our relationship right now.

i ask for words of affirmation sometimes, but i hold back from telling him how much i miss him because i feel like he just thinks i’m needy and clingy for wanting to talk to him on the phone when he has a free minute. he assures me he doesn’t think that, but it’s hard to feel like you’re not clingy when you’re met with such meh behavior.

i don’t know what to do, if this is a me problem where i need to fulfill my own needs, or if i should have another talk with him about how i’m feeling.