Hi, I mentioned earlier that I reached out to him. We’re friends on Facebook, but I didn’t know what to write to him. However, he beat me to it. Today, he messaged me, and I was shocked when I saw it—even though I had sent him a friend request. He wrote to me in a completely normal way, saying, “Hi, how’s it going? It’s been a while—what are you up to these days?” He also asked me to send his regards to my family.

I haven’t opened the message yet, but I’m considering doing so and replying. I’m torn between confronting him—though several people here have said it’s a bad idea—or just pretending to have a normal conversation with him to see what he says and whether he ever mentions it or takes responsibility.