Hey there, you can call me Ivory (not my real name)

I'm a black woman who knows what she wants, and I'm here to be clear about my preferences and desires. I'm relatively new to exploring BDSM and being a submissive, so while l'm a bit inexperienced, I'm eager to learn and delve deeper into the lifestyle with the right Dom. I prefer to date outside my race-this is simply my personal choice. I'm only looking for attractive cis males who are 5'8" or taller, fit, lean, or muscular, and aged between 23-27. I live in the northern suburbs of St. Louis, so being in this area or nearby is important to me. If you don't meet these criteria, please respect my boundaries and don't message me.

What I'm looking for: I want a long-term relationship with someone I can date to marry. If that idea scares you, we won't be a good match. I want a Dom who can also be my partner. For me, romance and kink go hand in hand. I'm looking for a man who can be sweet and gentle but also rough and intense when the time calls for it. Someone who's obsessive, possessive, but loyal and caring. I want to be spoiled with love and affection. I want to be genuinely cherished.

I'm a masochist who needs a sadistic Dom willing to explore that side of me, but I also crave a deep emotional connection. I want to share our interests, game together (Dead by Daylight or Minecraft, anyone?), and be there for each other through the highs and lows of life. I need someone who values honesty as much as I do. Having been cheated on in the past, I have trauma around trust, so complete transparency is non-negotiable. I want to hear your thoughts, your feelings, and I'll be just as open in return.

The dynamic I wish to create:

I want to be yours, completely and wholly. I dream of a Total Power Exchange dynamic where you take control of every aspect of my life, from how I dress to how I speak. I want my life to revolve around serving you, knowing that my purpose is to fulfill your desires and make your life easier. I’m eager to follow your rules and protocols, knowing they bring me closer to being the best version of myself for you.

I want to surrender my body, my mind, and my soul to you. I want you to decide when I can experience pleasure, to make me beg for your attention, and to mold me into your perfect submissive. You’ll pick out my clothes, send me to be pampered, and shape me into exactly what you desire—your personal masterpiece.

But I also want to be more than just a submissive. I want to be your partner, your muse, the one who brings you peace and comfort after a long day. I want to build something lasting and meaningful, where we grow together and strengthen each other.

I am prepared to endure whatever you desire within limits. Degradation, pain, and humiliation, these are all part of the love I want to give you, because I know that in the end, it will make me yours in a way that words alone cannot.

If you’ve made it this far, I’d love to hear from you. Please be respectful and share a bit about yourself and what kind of dynamic you’re looking to create with me. I want to know what you expect as not only a dom, but a lover as well. A simple “hi” and nothing else won’t catch my eye at all. You can even throw in your best dad joke, because why not? :)

— Ivory