If we are being polite, we would say I'm nuanced. I'm a forward thinking progressive person who thinks everyone should do what they want (within reason) as long they aren't hurting others and just trying to find some form of happiness in a pretty lonely world. I'm also a possessive and dominant man who can't be happy in a relationship if I don't look at the person who shares my bed and genuinely think "that's MY woman, and I will spend every day protecting her and guiding her, and using her to make myself feel good".

Rather that believe I'm too soft to truly be dominant (or too dominant to truly be kind), I choose to accept who I am and find a partner who feels equally drawn to two worlds. For all my kinks and flaws, I know I'm a genuine person, and I know I can respect my partner as an equal AND think of her as my possession. I can train a woman to my tastes and be aware that when it comes to real life stuff we have to set kink aside and be adults who need to have each other's backs.

I'm a man of two sides:

Half of me loves going out for dates multiple times a week. See a movie, wander a museum, go on a hike, try a restaurant, even post up at a dive bar and play a board game together until the early hours of the morning. If it's with you, I'm having fun, because spending time with you is my ideal.

The other half of me wants to stay at home while you're striped nude and on your knees sucking and worshiping my cock, while I casually pet your head and murmur equal parts praise and degradation. I want to cum down your throat while I am totally relaxed, and feel you nuzzle and kiss my soft cock and balls until I thicken up again and you can earn another load down your throat.

Half of me wants to just hear you talk about anything, because you're YOU, and you always interest me. Your day, the show you watched, the book you read; it's the woman I love talking, and anything you say is a chance to get to know your soul more. A feeling like that is when you know a relationship is working, in my experience.

The other half of me is obsessed with how my cock just hardens in seconds while I look you up and down. Your body is maintained because I like it and think it looks sexy next to my broad shoulders and belly. You wear makeup sometimes simply because i ant you too. Whatever your style, I love to dress you - preppy, goth, sporty, fancy, you look good in it because I chose the outfit and I think you're beautiful. You're my pride and my trophy.

Half of me wants to walk to the Saturday market, pick out a ton of delicious fresh ingredients, and cook an awesome (hopefully lol) date night dinner together. I want to have a favorite dish you make or I make, that always always brightens the day and reminds both of us we're loved and thought about.

The other half me wants to come back from a workout, find the room you are in, and pin you down by the back of your neck while I take what's mine and remind you of your purpose and use. I'll even have you kiss my sweaty cock thanks when I'm done, before dragging you into the shower with me for a make out session before you wash me from head to toe.

The simple truth is... I'm complicated, but I'm also sturdy when it comes to protecting the woman who gives me the honor of being her dominant. I will be an unshakable presence for you, and always be on your side when life pushes us. All I ask in exchange is my proverbial collar around your neck and your holes and body ready for my pleasure and needs.

About me: 34 5'11 230 lbs. Mixed race. Brown hair and eyes. Trimmed beard, broad shoulders, some body hair and a belly. My shirts are XL and my condoms are magnums, I'm thick in pretty much all ways haha. Think NFL lineman. And since I know my audience, I'll add yes every piece of clothing I own is yours to steal, it's part of the deal. Homeowner outside of Portland in the suburbs, distance is fine to start, but long term goal is a partner joining me out here if we clicked. Happy to swap pics.

I may be a big guy but I'm active and into hiking/camping and lifting, even if I'll pour out a gallon of sweat lol. I prefer athletic, average, slim, or hourglass girls. Long story short a size gap can do a lot for me, I love the dichotomy of our builds and body types.

Hobby wise I'm a dork, so you need to enjoy a Dom who makes you occasionally (or more than occasionally 😅) cringe with how corny he can be. Huge horror nerd; if it's spooky I'm down. I also play games when I have the time, but that's less and less these days haha. I'm pretty much always working my way through some book (right now it's Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar, lowkey might be a classic). Love the outdoors (in the PNW you gotta), and it's a scientific fact that the most delicious meals are eaten at the top of a trail while you look out at the view.

Reach out if this spoke to you, I'm not as intense as the post implies (see mention of me being a cheesy dork). Let's chat and see if the connection is there. If that goes well I'd love to hop on a voice chat or get a coffee.