Hi,

I’m 29 and was with my ex wife for almost 12 years. I got divorced almost 2 years ago. And as hard as this is for me to admit, I haven’t had sex in that long either… I haven’t even kissed anyone… most I’ve done is kiss a girls neck while dancing… it’s extremely embarrassing to me, is this normal?

I feel very negative about myself because of this. I’m not the best looking guy but I’m confident with who I am. After the divorce I spent 3 months in a city with no friends or family fixing a house, I barely touched my phone let alone go out to date. Then I dealt with the divorce, both legally and mentally; finally I started to think about dating and now I have been going out to clubs for a couple months now (probably 6 different nights). I’ve gotten some numbers and danced with people but that’s it. It’s starting to feel personal but I’m also brand new to this. Is this normal as well? Like how often do people actually hook up? How many woman text back a guy? It feels like I’m doing something wrong. Or am I being hard on myself? I don’t know.

Thank you for the help in advance.