I don’t know if this is the right place to post but long story short, the mother of my child cheated on me 4 times throughout our relationship. It’s been over a year since I kicked her out but I just can’t seem to stop assuming every woman is going to do the same thing to me.

Every time I meet someone and start getting serious, if they don’t reply for a while I’m checking when they were last active on other apps and my head creates all kinds of horrible scenarios. It’s not fair that I keep projecting my past onto the people presently in my life. I just can’t seem to stop.

I wouldn’t say I’m paranoid outside of relationships so I’m not sure if this is just something I have to just wait until it passes or if there’s something I can do or any help I can get to stop overthinking every interaction with someone.

I live in the UK & any advice would be appreciated.