(sorry if this is not the right place to be posting this! It's literally the only male sub that'll let me post in and I'm looking for specifically the perspective of men.) as the title states, I am to give birth within the next three weeks. Ultimately, I'm leaving this decision up to my partner, as he's the man and I'm not, and I don't understand what it's like to have a penis. my partner himself is circumcised, but we are both very conflicted and are looking to some insight. We live in America. On one hand, we feel that it's genital and child mutilation (if you choose to circumcise your children, that is your decision, and I'm not judging at all!). There's no reason to circumcise a penis as far as i know, but it's become so normalized here, that most men are circumcised. I've been told that not circumcising him would be cruel, as he will grow to be insecure of his uncircumcised penis because everyone else is circumcised and he'll feel like the odd one out. But I also don't wanna make that decision for him, as it's not my body. Sure, we created his body, but it is not ours to make decisions like that for. I don't wanna make a decision for him, when he's vulnerable and unable to make such a decision himself. I also know that getting circumcised decreases physical sensation on the head. It makes orgasms less potent as well. but also, let's face it, I know he's going to grow up and have sex one day, and I don't want him to feel angry at us for not circumcising him if a woman, or whoever he chooses to have sex with, is weirded out by him having foreskin, as I've heard that is an unfortunate but common experience amongst uncircumcised men here. another thing I know that disturbs me though is that hospitals do sell foreskin. Not all hospitals, but a surprising amount do. Obviously, I would have to do my research into the hospital I choose to get him circumcised at (if I choose to get him circumcised), but I just am uncomfortable with that idea in general. I also know that foreskin is used in things such as some antiaging creams, which makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

The one thing I can't get over though, is that it is in fact, genital mutilation. The foreskin is supposedly a really important part of the penis.

I don't know, I guess I'm just looking for some insight. Any, and all advice and perspectives would be appreciated. I'm looking for advice from both sides of uncircumcised, and circumcised, men. if you were circumcised, do you wish you weren't? Why/why not? If you weren't circumcised, do you wish you were? Why/why not? Thank you so much for taking your time to read this, I appreciate you guys ❤️

-parents that wants to make the right decision for their baby boy

PS, my apologies if this is all over the place lol. It's 2 in the morning and I'm tired.

i marked this as not safe for work in case it's considered to be

also, absolutely no shaming! Please don't comment if you're just gonna say something mean and unhelpful about a circumcised/uncircumcised penis. all penises are awesome! I'm not here to body shame, I'm here to get some insight. If you don't have anything insightful to say, please don't say anything! Thank you!

edit: thank you for the wide variety of responses and perspectives!! i'm reading through them all now, but they're incredibly helpful. you all said exactly what i needed to hear, and i appreciate that. it IS child abuse. it IS genital mutilation, and it IS unnecessary and quite frankly, unhealthy. we WILL NOT be circumcising him. thank you fellas 🙏🏻❤️