To start, this is the second post I have ever made on reddit. The first on this sub. So I'm sorry if its breaks any of the subs rules or is generally not cohesive, I'm pretty nervous. My wife suggested posting to this sub for help.

So I (21m) and my little brother (18m), became close through video games as kids. I would say that we are closer to each other than anyone else in the family. Neither of us have a good relationship with our parents or siblings. Not to mention we are both pretty socially awkward and have very few friends. I moved out at 17, and when I was around 19, I gifted him a ps4 so we could play together. We currently gameshare and play a lot of the same games. Up until a couple months ago, we would play together for a few hours daily. I have always considered us to be friends at the very least honestly even best friends. I wanted him to be best man at my wedding, but complications happened and my wife and I ended up eloping. Important, hes planning to move in with my wife and I at the end of the summer while he figures out what he wants to do going forward, most likely taking a year off before college and doing a job while paying a small amount of rent. Also important, I know hes gotten some new friends recently. I know this because one of them offered to sell him a vape and he was asking if he would be allowed to use it up here. The answer was a strong not at the house preferably not at all. But it concerned me as we've been against smoking since we were children and he was brushing off any health facts I gave him as to the amount of nicotine in vape pods.

Now about 2 maybe 3 months ago he started getting on ps4 less and less. To the point now where I pretty much dont talk to him at all during the week and only a few times on weekends. This doesnt particularly bother me, he's still in high school, he's got a job and some new friends. He's busy. And I work 4/10s at work so I totally understand that we dont play together as often. But on the weekends or when I feel like we actually have time that we both might be able to get on. I'll call him or shoot him a text, sometimes both. He's been bad about answering his phone in the past so I try to be understanding, but in all honesty I text him a bunch. I have tried talking to him about this multiple times and asking him to just shoot me a quick text when he can saying hes just not gonna be on or that he just doesnt wanna play. And he insists that not only will he do that going forward but that he wants to play with me in the first place, hes just busy. Yesterday this kind of all came to a head. A new game came out on friday we were excited about. And he was on for maybe ten minutes before deciding he wanted to go to bed. Hed just gotten home from work. No biggie. I tell him ill talk to him tomorrow and he says cool. So I text him around 11 the next morning and no answer. I call him because I think its bizarre that he wouldnt be awake by then and we were both super excited to play this together. No answer. Fast forward to 3 pm. And Im hopping off to get lunch with my wife. He gets on and I tell him hey Im gonna go get lunch. Ill be back in about an hour. He says cool Ill be on. I come back and hes gone. I shoot him a text and a call. Nothing. Until about 11pm he hops on. And I ask him whats been going on lately we havent been talking as much. Youve been ignoring my texts again. He switches between brushing me off like im crazy or just straight up not answering. I try asking him to talk to me about whatever is wrong and he says that he doesnt talk to anyone about that kind of stuff then continues to ignore me. I ask him if this has something to do with moving in with us like maybe he changed his mind or something and he says it has nothing to do with that. I get fed up with asking him a question for him to ignore me so I just stay quiet for a couple minutes. And he just gets off without saying anything. So I sent him a couple of texts. The first to say that Im really frusturated with him blowing me off without saying anything while Im kind of waiting up for him (we play any competetive games together only). And that if hes gonna keep brushing me off than Im just not gonna wait up for him anymore. I just bought a pc. The only reason I still play on ps4 at all is to hang out with him. After no response I send the second text. I ask him to please say something. If he cant talk to me about video games and texts then how will he talk to me about rent when he moves in? I reiterate that Im there for him and I really thought we were closer than this and that Im getting frusturated that he will just completely ignore me for days at a time. That was last night right after he hopped off. As of this morning. I still have no response. And Im not sure what to do. I feel like I shouldnt have pushed it but I kind of lost my temper. Im sure the texts came off harsher than I wanted them to. I dont want to ruin my relationship with my brother. But I dont feel like the way he's treating me is fair. My wife thinks that his new friends are kind of convincing him its weird or dumb that he hangs out with me so much. I dont know about that but Im certain somethings wrong and I want to help but how do I show him that he can talk to me without confronting him on it? Or am I the bad guy here, am I being clingy and I just need to leave him alone moving forward? All advice is welcome. Im pretty lost.