Everyone's orgasm changing? Like either they almost happen or when they do its just kind of small? Takes longer to get there? And maybe even just a whole different orgasm experience? Less intense, more vaginal and last longer? Which I really enjoy these, not complaining about that one. Bit the big explosive ones just don't happen anymore.

I have a new lover and he's 13 yrs younger than me. I'm 47 btw. I almost feel like I'm faking but I'm not. I'm really enjoying the sex but I question sometimes if that was a real orgasm or just a different kind now? I don't want to talk to him about it because it's very new and too soon to go into my menopause issues.

I can come easily with toys. Have I become so accustomed to using those that the real thing is just harder now. That's punny...lol.

Should I talk to my gyno about creams and such? She mentioned it last time I saw her a couple months ago. Has this helped anyone reach the big "O" that experienced similar issues as me? Are there icky side effects? I'm still lubricating on my own.

He totally turns me on and gives me what I need. We communicate and he is a pleaser. It's definitely not him.

Anyone have insight? The changing orgasm is annoying.