Hi guys firstly I am married we have had a pretty consistent and happy sex life. However as of times in recent I am not satisfied due to lack of sex and variety of sex. My wife says I am vanilla, though I am extremely interested in bdsm and swinging. Every time I try and approach my wife’s sex life I get shot down. What do I do to spice things up? I do watch a fair bit of porn and my daughter sleeps with her.

Once upon a time there were interest in swinging by both parties but nothing eventuated. I want to know if this is possible for us! I guess just change as a person.

We are both too young to let anything get in the way of our sex life so what should I do? Perhaps not talking as I get shot down and have little ears listening! What other ways can I get interest in the bedroom and out of the bedroom? Feel alive with some kinks!

Please don’t suggest r/Melbourne swingers I have tried posting here but they believe I want to manipulate my wife.

Feel free to Dm me if you are in the same situation or can help in any way

Cheers