Hello! I’m 35, gay, from Maryland. Looking for a guy (27-45 years old) in the US or Canada to get to know for a potential long-term relationship.

Personality:

I’d like to meet someone who is introspective, emotionally expressive, kind, compassionate, romantic, humble and humorous - all of which I strive to be myself. I can be pretty goofy at times and I fully embrace my inner child (so I don’t mind if you’re the same way!).

I am very expressive of affection and want that from a significant other, too. My love languages are “all of the above” lol: words of affection, love notes / drawings, compliments, nicknames, hand holding, cuddling, massages, etc. I’m 100% monogamous and looking for someone who is the same. I am out, and I want my significant other to also be out so we don’t hide each other.

Lifestyle:

A guy who’s a bit of a homebody and likes calm activities outside the house is ideal. I’m not into clubs, bars, or wild parties, and I’d like someone who isn’t either. I enjoy hanging out with family and friends on occasion, but I need space away from them to recharge after social situations. Also, I’m a night owl (hoot!).

If things go well and we wind up together, hopefully we can have long nightly video chats, text each other during the day, and have “virtual date nights” watching movies / gaming until we can spend time together in person, traveling to each other for visits until we can close the gap permanently.

Ultimately, in the future, I’d like to live in a home with just me and my significant other and enjoy a life where we spend the majority of our free time together doing romantic and everyday things. I would like to get married one day, so I’m looking for a guy who wants that, too, but I do not want kids.

Hobbies:

Collecting and enjoying my collections (everything from crystals to coins, pendants, vintage toys and books), drawing and watercolor painting, visiting museums, parks, and historic sites, checking out thrift and antique shops, reading, day trips, scenic drives, taking quick pics of nature, and board games.

I watch Netflix (including my favorite show, The Crown!), documentaries, some horror and true crime, older sitcoms, and (okay, I admit it) some trash TLC shows. As far as music, anything from Ed Sheeran to Dolly Parton and Blink-182. I’m not a gamer, but I wouldn’t mind being taught by a patient guy to play together or cuddling with him while he plays.

Self Description:

I’m short, white, have some body hair, bearded, and bald, with an average build. I have a preference for chubby guys. Must be willing to share a face pic of ourselves early in our communication.

I am 100% gay. I’m a side / bottom (with restrictions that I’m happy to explain privately). I do not want an open relationship and I’m looking for someone who feels the same way.

As far as gender, I am biologically male, but internally I’m nonbinary since I don’t feel fully male or female in spirit.

Health:

I deal with physical health issues, including chronic pain, migraines, insomnia, etc. Often, those things limit what I can do daily, so I need someone who is supportive and okay with me having health challenges and limitations.

I also deal with mental health issues. There are things I’m trying to better about myself, so I’m in therapy doing everything I can to improve. I’m not perfect, and I always try my best, but I often need reassurance, and there are times I need forgiveness and understanding, which I also give to others in return.

Work:

Because of my health, I’ve been out of work for some time, but I’m working towards a job (possibly remote) to start getting back into things. I have my own savings to support myself in the meantime. I was a teacher for quite a few years, and I have a bachelor’s degree in American Studies with a minor in Art.

Religious / Political:

I’m agnostic. I’m left-leaning on most political issues and I would like a significant other who has that political outlook, too. I’d ultimately be willing to move for a significant other, but I would not move to a conservative state that lacks social services like Medicaid expansion.

Communication:

Direct, open, honest, consistent communication is essential. It’s important that we allow each other to bring up any issues / insecurities we have to discuss and work through to become stronger together. Of course, loving communication with each other is key (no yelling, name-calling, mean-spirited sarcasm, or lies).

If I piqued your interest, feel free to send me a private chat message to let me know about you! (I don’t always get comment alerts, so a private message is better). Don’t hesitate to message me even if you don’t feel like you’re where you want to be in life or like you have things to improve about yourself. We’re all works in progress, and you don’t have to be “perfect” to be worthy.