I’ve met some amazing people on here and am hoping to strike gold again. The relationships have ended for various reasons, but the ones that have had staying power have been incredible. I’m looking for something long term that will stand the test of time.

I’m a highly sapiosexual married man. Intelligence, relentless curiosity, articulate, and engaging are among the most attractive traits in a woman. I’m well educated and absolutely need to be able to connect on this level. I love when we answer each other’s questions and it leads to five other questions. Degrees aren’t as important as personality, so please don’t let that intimidate you. Historically, I seem to connect well with educators, health-care professionals, and business women, but I love me a good SAHM mom too.

In addition to intellect, I need someone who is compassionate, non-judgmental, and open minded to opinions different to her own. I enjoy discussing complicated topics like politics, religion, spirituality though of course that’s not the only thing I want to discuss. Why? Because I want to know my partner. I want to understand where she’s coming from. I want to understand her life journey. Vulnerability is what builds intimacy. And no, I don’t mean intimacy solely as a euphemism for sex. I’m looking for a robust, deep connection here. I am hoping to find someone who sees how messy and complicated life is. That it’s a million shades of gray and almost no black/ white.

I am definitely a dork/ nerd and I’ve learned to be comfortable and confident in my own skin. I feel out about science, nature, music, theater, and raw connection. I’m an introvert who values meaningful interaction with others. If you started off shy/ awkward and then grew into so much more, we will get along. I am going through an explosive period of personal and professional growth and would love to have someone who matches my energy and sense of excitement and adventure. I can be a little over the top in public, but then quiet and sensitive in intimate settings.

Of course, curiosity and passion will translate to the bedroom where knowing my partner is enjoying herself is essential. In my mind, sex is a full contact, team sport where winning means everyone is satisfied. Laughter and silliness should also abound. Historically, my experiences have been vanilla, but I’m open to exploring together. Someone who will whisper, “wouldn’t it be sexy if…” into my ear. Also, having studied mate choice and human anatomy, let’s just say I know how to translate the academic into very practical result.

Physically, a cute face and eyes that sparkle with excitement/passion always get me. I’m trying to be more physically active in the new year, so anyone else that is looking to improve themselves physically or willing to motivate me further is most welcome. I’m tall and HWP, but want to increase my athletic endurance and build definition for more reasons than one. I’ve found that redheads and ladies with dark hair and pale complexions really tend to really get me going, but it always comes down to the total package.

I know I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but for those who are excited by what I’ve written, I think you’re going to like what I have to offer. You don’t need to check every box to reach out. I’m trying to paint in broad strokes here. I’m looking for something that will translate to in person at some point, so the closer to STL/ MO/ southern IL, the better.

For those needing a physical description: 6’3” HWP/ healthy BMI, shaved head, goatee, and blue eyes guaranteed to be the first thing you comment on.