I’ll try to keep this concise but please bear with me. Married 22 years next month but we’ve been in a dead bedroom situation for about 17 of those years, around the time our first kid was born. Sex only happens about 4 times a year., and it’s always predictable & “vanilla.” I’ve had a couple emotional affairs with wonderful women, but unfortunately they’ve lived in other states. Last one ended in 2019.

I’ve had a FWB for a couple of years, but it’s really only for the fun & release, not the emotion. There’s never really been emotion with her, just really fun sex. Even then, we only meet 4-5 times a year.

I just wanna find a woman with whom I have that “spark.” You know what I mean. I want someone I look forward to hearing from throughout the day. Someone I’d be willing to take risks with. I miss being told I’m attractive & desired.

I’m 5’10” and 170 pounds, short brown hair with a few grays. Short beard the same. Hazel eyes, vasectomy, fairly fit body for a guy my age.

Willing to move slowly and really get to know a wonderful woman if you’re out there. Interested in white women, 35-55, confident, and height / weight proportionate.