I come here like most of you, seeking ___ insert what you need here. But maybe that is just what humanity is, finding us compromising for the good of the whole, only to be giving up something we hold so dear. We put a face on, we placate, we pretend, have "faked it until..." well have have yet to make it yet. We are in love but not IN love. We he most of what we need but something quantifiable is still not there. If we share it, we are judged, if we voice it, maybe we will unheard, gaslit, invalidated, ___insert appropriate feeling which applies to your situation.
We have decided we can wait not one minute or one second more, so here you are scrolling, reading, hoping. Is this going to be my match? Chasing what you so desperately crave. If you are new, and still process what that "thing" is for you, maybe you cant name it, but you know it. Isn't there, its palpable, more real than a tree in your yard, but as invisible as the ghost of your past on the street corner.
You are scrolling, hoping a big neon sign will flash, allowing you to skip over the emotional vulnerability, the anxiety, the audible gasp you may take when you exchange your photo with someone knowing you are making it real. Hoping beyond all hope, that this is that person, let all your walls down and be the person you crave to be.
Unfortunately, those same things we want to skip over, are the same things which make the experience worth it. The juxtaposition we find ourselves in, "Dating While Married". Trying to navigate an entire aspect of our lives alone, trusting out gut and other tingly parts of our bodies to find this person you know has to be out here. Well, maybe you are my person, and I am yours?
Me:
I give just as good as I get. A healthy give and tug is important and I have found I can hold my own in almost any situation. I put a priority on wellness, mental and physical, being a goof and not being afraid to dance, even when everyone is watching. I love it, its a release, and I am fortunate to not have two left feet, and we can be a couple on the dance floor and make others jealous. I enjoy reading, laughing, enjoying the five minutes of silence in the morning with my coffee before the house erupts in daily chaos. I have been told and hold the same thoughts; I am confident, attractive, and know what I have to offer. I am tall and fit, enjoy an active workout life and am here just as much for the stimulating conversation about whether you would be remembered for something you did not do, or forgotten for something you did achieve.
The bedroom is a key component and I am looking to make this an in person actuality down the road. Traveling is not an issue and with the right person, this can be a long distance thing with multiple meet ups a year. I enjoy being dominate, but caring. I have a long and filthy list of kinks I enjoy and like. I hope maybe you will as well. I am open and want to be free to discuss what we want. I enjoy being able to paint a picture with my words as you read each one, your lip bite gets harder and harder, until you have transported yourself into my painting. I want the desire, the passion, the kink. Maybe that's too much? but I feel confident in knowing someone out there is reading this thinking, yes, please more. Using toys, restraints, the power of the mind, and willing to wait for the right person.
You:
Open to conversation and in depth ones at that. Have time for a relationship and willing to invest in it. Time is a resource, please have an amount of resource to invest. You like having a mutual back and forth conversation and are not prone to reply," yes" or " hey". There is nothing more unattractive then someone taking the time to read and they have nothing to contribute to a conversation. Be willing to be as engaging as you wish to be engaged. This is not an exit affair. This is not my first trip down this road either. I am willing to put quality into one person, and I expect you to do the same. Your open to video calls, or phone calls, and want to show me your daily life as we grow the relationship naturally.
Be comfortable in your skin and who you are. Physical attraction is important. Take that as you will, but stamina is a must. I am not going to ask you to put a list of all your kinks on a list, but I want to have a general sense of what you enjoy as compatibility is important. I enjoy professional women who have careers as the chances of a mutual meeting is more likely than a SAHM. This is not a fantasy to me, I am looking to make it as real as you are reading this. I will leave it at that. I am not going to ask you to pass a test, I will only ask you to respond as you see Fit