M31 (me) married to F30. Our sex drives are completely different and it’s driving me nuts.

We have been married over 8 years now and dated before that for 4 years. I think she is the most attractive women I have ever met. Beginning of our sex life was amazing. We both are the only people we have been with sexually. We have multiple kids now and once that happened over the years it seems like all of her sex drive has died. Every once in awhile she will get in the mood and when that happens our sex is great. It can be kinky sometimes and a lot of fun.

We have great sex but it’s rare. I would say 2 or 3 times a month. She flat out says she can take it or leave it. It’s not that she doesn’t enjoy it she says she is just tired and overwhelmed. It feels like a “chore” to her. I on the other hand have a super high sex drive. I literally could do it every day or every other day. I have big kinks and love to explore but totally am fine with normal sex too.

I feel like I’m broken for how much I want it? I find her so attractive I just want to be intimate with her. I do acts that are not sexual either for her and it still feels like it isn’t enough. So I am starting to feel like I need to get help to work through this?