So my wife and I are both in our mid-forties. We've been married for almost 25 years and together for 28. We have a very good marriage; careers, kids, mortgage, ect. While we did mess around with other people prior to getting together we have not had sex with other people...only each other. Not for any particular reason... It just happened to work out that way. For the last 15 years or so we've had this shared fantasy of playing with other people. It ranges everywhere from her alone with a guy, her alone with another woman, me and another woman, MFM, MFMF, and orgies. Her porn history is littered with cuckold porn. The only thing is that we still have not pulled the trigger on doing anything about it. The interest is definitely there from both of us but we have differing views on how we want it to go down. I want to take a more deliberate approach and me a couple online and start slow by just agreeing to same room no swap and see where it goes from there. Sort of testing the water to see how my wife and I will both react rather than diving headfirst into the deep end so to speak. She doesn't want to go that route. She wants to just go to a sex club and Hope for attracting some randos to play with. She says she doesn't want to go through the trouble of chatting with people and getting to know them. She wants to just go to a club and hope for the best. Our lives are pretty busy and hectic and I know that trying to do it her way most likely would not result in anything happening versus my way where we can at least guarantee starting the night off with a couple and seeing where things go from there. So I guess I'm just looking for some insight from anybody out there on how they would handle this scenario. There are no wrong answers.