You're looking for that connection, the appreciation, the fun flirty banter, the thrill and excitement of mutual desire - all the missing stuff. But not wanting to blow life up.

You're not after just a hook-up. You want something more consistent, deeper, and safe. But the sex is an important missing piece - libidos aren't matched or there's more you want to try, but can't. Maybe both.

Life's hard enough, overall, you need this to be light and fun. Deep isn't out of the question, but this needs to bring energy, not drain it.

If that's you - we're looking for the same thing.

About me: A married dad in the Chico area. The dad you notice at pick up and drop-off - chatting with other parents, laughing and engaging with his kids, seems to know all of their classmates. Well educated, successful career, emotionally intelligent, witty, and probably overly sarcastic. Enjoys gym time as his "me time", loves to swim and be outdoors overall. Loves nerdy fantasy books, games, and shows. The kind of guy who loves both parts of the romantasy books you love. Clean and DD free.

About you: You're positive, kind, and genuine. You speak your mind and aren't afraid to be honest. You're married and you have kids. Clean and DD free. Ideally you're local enough that if it feels right in-person is an option. Discretion is as important to you as it is to me. And ultimately you want what I've described here.

Physically about us - attraction for this is important, but it's such a subjective thing in both directions. Let's ultimately swap pics to make sure it's there for both of us. But to give you an idea I'm tall (yes, actually 6'3" you can verify) with broad shoulders, strong arms, and killer calves! Handsome, short brown hair, clean with a short beard and cute smile. White (I know that matters to some). Athletic, with just a hint of that dad bod.

I'm attracted to women who are lean and athletic to HWP - I can appreciate some curves and a great mom-bod (seriously - mom butts in mom jeans are 🔥). I love and appreciate all skin tones. Bonus points though for kinda alt moms (any combo of tattoos, piercings, dyed hair) and moms with freckles.

Let's connect and see where this goes.