I know from previous experiences what works best for me, so please be from the UK, and please be around my age or older (us mature folk need love too), and one other thing, ideally you'll be a lurker, curious about this lifestyle but hesitant as to what to do, but fear not, we'll go at your pace, one step at a time.

So, i presume you're an inquisitive woman who is looking for something more than what life is offering you at the moment. You're hard working, always on the go, making sure your family is safe and well, you're busy running the household, always tidying up after them all, you do the weekly shop, prepare and cook the evening meal, you probably plan the family holiday every year too. The only moments peace you have is when you run yourself a hot bath, or manage to find the time to settle down with a good book, and when you're having your moments peace, you can't help but wonder, wonder what it would feel like to be noticed again.

I'm definitely looking for someone to enhance my life, my marriage is good, but it could be better, it could always be better, right? The thing is though, we seem to have fallen into taking each other for granted, feeling too comfortable, lack of effort has now pushed way to feeling a little invisible, plus we have older kids who will probably fly the nest within a few years, and so im unsure how we'll navigate just being a couple.

I consider myself to be a gentleman, im polite, courteous and emotionally available, i say strange words like 'please' and 'thank you', I'll even apologise when im in the wrong. But i make no apologies for being who i am, the older i get, i seem to care less about what people think or say these days. I'm more comfortable in my skin than ever before and i know what i like and what i dont like. I'm straight up honest and will say what's on my mind but at the same time, im empathic (sometimes it's a curse, and yes it's contradictory) and wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm prone to over thinking and sometimes worry about the little things in life, because the little things are actually really important.

Physically i am 5'11, i have a high metabolism, considered attractive, but looks are subjective, i have plain brown eyes and a short salt and pepper beard, incidentally i have been told that I have nice kind eyes and a warm smile. And for yourself, just be confident in who you are, but im partial to what some would say a mum bod, or curvaceous.