This doesn't have to be so tiresome and difficult. Yet, many of you get off at lying or just getting your 10 minute rush of attention then disappearing for a month. Is your life really that pathetic where you think those actions are the most satisfying moments of your day?

It's time to be direct and honest with you while accepting the fact that many of you will get upset, down vote and block. Guess what? I'm going to sleep just fine no matter what your internet reaction is to how I see things in these subs.

Attraction matters. No, physical attraction isn't everything but it plays a key role. If it doesn't for you, then that just tells me you're so desperate for attention that you'll take it from anyone. Just like those dudes who offer to do intimate things for a woman after her post, yet have no idea what she (or he pretending to be a she) looks like. I'm not asking you to give away your identity or any distinguishing features because discretion is still important here. However, if you can't describe what you look like with more than vague adjectives - then there's a reason you're hiding those facts and numbers. I'm handsome. I know it and I've been called handsome too many times not to believe it. I'm not wasting my, or your, time with endless back and forth because you think someone will overlook physical attraction due to conversation. Get some confidence in yourself. I guarantee those who try this long conversation method still get ghosted after sending a picture.....because nothing kills a conversation faster than not having that spark. To show that I'm not a hypocrite...I'm 6'1, 194 lbs, blue eyes and have run 5 half marathons in the past couple years.

What happened to the art of seduction and teasing? What happened to dressing nice for a night out to dinner or a fundraising event? Here's a tip - if you can rock the clothes and shoes, then what's underneath isn't going to be a deal breaker for any guy. There's no need to post or send your birthday suit right off the bat. Why not save those fun and intimate photos or someone who earns the privilege? You want to give it all away for free so anyone can see and save? Fine, you do you. I'll just look at them and wonder what you're missing in life that led you to this desperation act.

Bots, you all are programmed to say similar things so I'll know within the first few messages. Save your time and rewrite the programming to skip my username.

I really do hope to find a great conversation, discover if there's any chemistry and go from there, no pressure. I know I can't be the only educated person in this sub that feels the same way. I'm not here to change your situation or mine but a world of excitement is still possible; not with just anyone.