I'm looking for someone in my local area who is open to joining me in my ongoing journey of exploration as an exclusive AP. Almost 29 years into my marriage, I recently shared my first affair with a beautiful, smart, self-aware, thoughtful, passionate, and consummately discreet AP I met here on Reddit. This affair enabled me to connect with parts of myself that have been neglected for years, parts that I frankly wasn't sure I'd ever experience again. I am deeply grateful for this experience and learned so much through it. It convinced me that I want to continue down this path, and I feel ready and eager to do so. I have learned that, for better or worse, I'm a man who can have an affair--and I'm pretty damn good at it.

As my title indicates, I'm 51. I've been told that I'm "handsome" and "great AP material." Yay for me! I'm a highly-educated, self-employed professional and a part-time educator. I'm smart, witty, thoughtful, sensitive, open-minded, and passionate. I'm 5'9", and DDF. I have brown hair and eyes, wear smart-looking glasses, and maintain a short, neatly trimmed beard. I work out and am trying to keep my body in shape. I love music, reading, sports, walking, nature, and deep conversation.

I'm in a marriage that, for many years, has left me feeling quite alone emotionally and physically despite my concerted efforts to hang in there and invest in the situation. It has been hard, but I've come to accept the limitations of my marriage for what they are. There are some things that I simply don't have the power to change. Nonetheless, for reasons that are hard to explain here, I'm not looking to change my situation at this point.

While I'm open to a broad age range, I seek an AP who is mature, self-aware, kind, and discreet. I genuinely desire to find someone who will be willing to nurture an emotional and intellectual connection. For me, it is important to experience physical intimacy in the context of a genuine and growing connection with my partner. At the same time, I've discovered that I've got a lot of unchanneled passion bottled up inside of me. I find immense pleasure in satisfying a partner. I enjoy giving a partner generous doses of attention, affection, and affirmation. And I am eager to find someone with whom I can laugh, have fun, and be a bit naughty. I promise to be good to you and to treat you with care, consideration, and respect.

I have some daytime flexibility and some capacity to host.

If you're open to communicating with me, I'd love to hear from you. I am willing to keep things online for a while to give us a chance to get acquainted and feel safe with one another. But I'd also be happy to grab coffee whenever you're ready. Every one of us has a story to tell about how we arrived here; I'm eager to hear yours and to understand the contradictions and compromises you've had to negotiate along the way. I certainly have my own story to tell. I'd hope we could exchange pics fairly early on to test whether the potential for physical compatability exists. Please message me with your ASL if you're interested and tell me a bit about yourself and your situation. I hope to hear from you!