Another day waking up to questioning how we got here. Do you even say good morning to each other any more? Another day going through the motions with someone who was suppose to be your one true love. When was the last time you felt their love or felt wanted? Another day trying to find someone who understands what you are going through. Someone who wants more than just the superficial physical urges satisfied. Someone who understands how a deep emotional connection is more important than what you look like naked and is willing to put in the effort to get to that point in the relationship.

I want to find someone who gets me. Someone who already knows at least part of what I'm feeling and wants to heal it in me just as badly as I want to heal it within them. Someone who wants to share their highs and their lows because that's what a real relationship is. I don't want just the happiness, I want your sadness too so that I can help you work through it and then pick you up and bring you back to where you were before you broke down. I want all the inside jokes and little secrets to be on my mind constantly to the point I can barely go throughout my day without needing to tell you something I saw that made me think of you. I want someone who reads all of this and tells me their favorite book or song right now in their opening message. I want a little world where you and I can go to be together and forget about the real world. It won't be easy and it won't come quick. I imagine I may not even find it on my first try with this post but I have had it before and I know I can find it again.

What I don't want is someone who is closed-minded and unable or unwilling to explore themselves openly with another person and work on the things they need help with. I don't want to carry the entire conversation, I want us to flow together effortless. I don't want any spouse bashers (if you and your spouse have a hard time throughout your day I do want to hear about that to let you vent but I don't want that to be the only thing we talk about). Our marriages aren't good but they aren't bad enough for us to leave so we find ourselves here looking for that spark.

A little bit about me: I'm 5'7. I workout and it shows but I still have some weight I am working off so if you are looking for someone on the more hwp side of the scale, I'm not your guy but I'm working towards that. I love listening to audiobooks and podcasts and discovering new genres of music. I love riding my bike and being out in nature but I do still find time to play games with my friends from time to time. I like working on projects with my hands, everything from working on cars to fixing things around the house. Just like everyone else here, I'm married and not trying to change your situation. I find I get along best with people 28-40 but that's not a hard line: the connection is more important. I'm mostly attracted to women but I have seen a few pretty men that I'd take a chance with. The closer to CST time zone the better. If you are from Wisconsin / Illinois / Indiana / Michigan, we may be able to meet in person someday.

If you are interested in walking this road with me, tell me a little bit about yourself. Maybe some hobbies or things that bring you happiness? What are you looking for or what brings you here? I can't wait to meet you and really make this year to remember :)