First of the usual stuff. Married, unhappy, not looking to change that though.

Hello there,

I’m one of those hopeless people who think that you deserve to be who you are and deserve to be liked just because of that, not in spite of.

That’s why i’m here. Looking for someone to connect with. Someone to get to know and open up to, to banter, flirt, vent and everything around and in between.

Once that was my wife but times goes by and things change. Now, most of the time, even if we are in the same room, we are not really together. She grew distant and found groups of people online who she’s talking to while i sit next to her (and yes i see the irony of trying to do basicaly the same now).

I’m looking for someone that i can talk with again. I would like it to be all day, every day but I also know that’s hardly possible. But i’d like open communication, i’ve got silence enough already in my life.

I'm a bit of a strange guy. Lonely in a room full of people but all by myself i feel quite content. I'm quite extrovert but prefer to keep to the people i know. I make new friends easily but struggle to keep up contact. At first glance i'm not the most likeable guy (i have resting grumpy face) but once you know me, you got a loyal friend. I'm not the most handsome or most athletic of men. I think i look quite decent though i'm a bigger fan if food than the gym (i am trying to get that to equality though). I was called "beary" in the past. The list goes on but lets keep some stuff for chat later I’m quite sarcastic, some say cynical. I’m into music (goth, metal, electro stuff mostly), movies, gaming, books (LOTR anyone?) as well as gardening and bee keeping. I’m struggling a bit with my mental health, nothing serious but there are dark days here and there.

I’m quite flexible with work hours so i would love to chat all over the day if possible. I am looking for those smiles and the anticipation when i see you texted me. I want to feel the rush of blood through my body when i read it. I want the smiles, smirks and so on. If you want to exchange pics early on lets go for it. If not fine with me, too! If you want to just chat nice, but i’d like to do voice or video chats someday, too.

So who are you? Ideally you’re in a similar situation and know the struggles of a way too quiet marriage/relationship. You’re emotionally available and not afraid to open up and show me your flaws and dark corners. You’re longing for someone to know you inside out and want to get to know somebody with all their good sides and their flaws. Bonus points if you are an hopless idealist who still believes that deep, deep down people are good and worth help and compassion (yeah, that’s me)

So if you like to, hit me up. Hope i’ll see you soon.

Oh, i'm from southern Germany so GMT 1. Ideally you're close by since time zones are such a struggle.