Hey everyone,

I’m 46 years old, living in the SF Bay Area, and I’m feeling really stuck in my life right now. I’m in a marriage that I don’t know how to fix, and honestly, I just feel lost. I’m hoping to find a place to talk about it, maybe hear from people who have gone through something similar.

I’ve been married for a few years and my wife is a great person—kind, loving, and supportive. But over time, I’ve realized I’m just not sexually attracted to her anymore. It’s hard to even explain because it’s not about her as an individual, but the intimacy is just not there anymore. I love her in a different way now, but it’s not the same, and it feels like there’s a huge gap between us that I don’t know how to bridge.

On top of that, I feel like I’m in a major rut in every other aspect of my life. I’m stuck in a job that doesn’t excite me anymore, and I don’t feel like I’m growing or moving forward. I’m not sure what I want to do, but I feel like I’m wasting my time. I’ve tried to make changes in the past, but nothing sticks. It’s like I’m just going through the motions, getting by, but not really living.

And then there’s the loneliness. I have my wife, but I feel like I’m disconnected from everyone else. I don’t have close friends, and it’s hard to know who to talk to about this. It feels like I’ve isolated myself over the years, and now I’m not sure how to get out of it.

I guess I’m just looking for someone to talk to who might understand. Maybe someone who’s gone through a similar phase or is dealing with a similar situation. How did you find your way out of a rut, or did you? Any advice, words of wisdom, or just hearing someone else’s experience would mean a lot.

Thanks for listening.