I think 1999 was the last year that I lived for myself. I’ve spent my entire adult life taking care of others and losing myself along the way. I’m tired of compromising on my own happiness. I’m tired of never coming first in my own life, so I’ve decided to do something for myself. I want to be more than just a mom. I’m a person.

I want to develop a real connection with someone that hopefully leads to something long term. I'm not looking for a one time chat but something that will grow over time, where we can’t wait to hear from one another. I want to know as much about you as you are comfortable with.

I’d love to have some spicy chat if we are vibing, but I’m not here to be your free only fans girl. The better I know you and the comfortable I feel with you, the more comfortable I will feel sharing pictures, videos and playing with you. I’m not going to send you nudes on day one so don’t ask, but you can send me all the NSFW pictures you want, whenever you want. :)

I’m married and a SAHM. I have been told by guys on reddit that I’m hot so maybe I am or maybe they are just being nice. I have a mom bod because I have had kids. I have piercings. I don’t care about make up or fashion. I don’t look like Barbie or an Instagram model. I’m still at heart the punk/goth girl that I was back in the day.

I like reading, horror, sci fi, stand up comedy, puzzles, board games, hanging with my kids, hiking, canoeing, being in nature, gardening, camping. While I do listen to some new music, most of the music I listen to is from the 90s and early 2000s. Mostly punk, alternative, emo, and metal.

I’m looking for someone preferably with kids. My kids are my life so I need someone who gets that. I’d also prefer someone in a roommates situation. It would be nice to find someone who is free in the evenings and not just while they are at work because I get lonely at night.

I’m not super picky. I don’t care about time zones. I like blue and white collar. I think intelligence is sexy, but you don’t have to be “book smart” or have a degree. I like full beards, tattoos and piercings, but clean cut can be sexy too. I like tall because I am on the taller side and prefer someone with hair but those aren’t deal breakers. I love guys that are good with their hands. I like funny guys with a good sense of humor. Dark, sarcastic humor is also appreciated. I like quirky, weird and fun.

The most important thing is you need to be able to hold up your side of the conversation. Seriously, you can look like the guy from Mask and I’d still be in to you if you are super interesting. I will talk about anything and don’t get offended easily. I want to not only talk about silly nonsense but also share real feelings and issues that are happening in our lives. Feel free to vent about your day, your boss, your spouse, your crazy family or annoying neighbors. I will happily listen to your problems because I can use the distraction. I’d love to hear all your stories.

I think we should get ourselves something fun and just for us this year.