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I’m 42, married, and successful by most standards. Steady job, stable life, and a marriage that looks great from the outside. But here’s the thing: somewhere along the way, I started feeling like being with me was just another box she checked.
There was a time when I felt like I was her world—or at least an important part of it. Now? It feels like we’re just co-managers of a life. The spark we once had has dimmed, and intimacy, both physical and emotional, feels more like a rare obligation than something we share.
I’m not looking to upend everything, but I can’t ignore this growing need to feel desired again. To feel seen. I miss the electricity of connecting with someone who’s genuinely excited to know me, to share a smile that lingers just a little too long, to exchange words that make the heart race.
I wonder if anyone else has felt this way—wanting to honor the life you’ve built, but still craving the parts of yourself that have been left behind. How do you navigate the pull between contentment and curiosity? How do you embrace the thrill of being noticed without stepping too far?
If you’re in the same boat—or have been—let’s chat. Sometimes a conversation can be the spark we both need.
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