Amid life’s chaos, maybe two lost souls can find each other and fill what’s missing in our lives—emotionally and physically.

Buckle up—it’s a long read.

You:

• Must have a pulse and be breathing—non-negotiable. Ghosts, while intriguing, aren’t great conversationalists and tend to disappear, which ain’t cool. IYKYK.
• Married or in a long-term relationship—also non-negotiable. The emptiness and longing for what is missing resonates with you.
• Ideally, you are in your mid-late 30s to mid-50s
• You are easygoing, emotionally available, and open to talking about everything. Above all, you seek companionship(and some mischief). F is just as key as B in FWB.
• Bonus if you are Into flavors beyond vanilla. (Yes, it is precisely what you think it does)

Me:

• I’m in my late 40s, married, South Asian, living in the SF Bay Area, working in software as a senior executive—yeah, that's a Bay Area cliché—with salt-and-pepper hair
• In a roommate situation with a long-term partner—emotional details for another time.
• Well-traveled, well-read, intelligent, kind, and, dare I say, funny (I’ll let you decide the last three). My interests are eclectic: classic movies, sci-fi, woodworking, cooking, poetry, history—and, of course, technology.

Us:

• We make time for people we want to be with. I enjoy sharing life’s moments, from mundane to meaningful, over text, voice, and video. I am chatty cathy personified.
• Open to trading pictures —just not on Reddit. Another platform works better. OPSEC etc

A few more things:

• I’m not looking to change your situation or mine. Life is complicated.
• Let’s keep the transactions for Amazon, shall we? No trying to sell your OnlyFans or pitch me a sugar baby arrangement.

It would be nice to be the reason we’re constantly checking our phones for new messages and smiling when we see them.

Phew! You made it. Thanks for sticking with it.

Reply with your thoughts: What’s one thing you’ve learned about relationships that you wish you’d known earlier?