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About Me:
I’ll be honest—this isn’t an easy post to write, but it’s a real one. I’m a 35-year-old marketer living in the Twin Cities, someone who always tried to do things the “right” way. I waited until marriage, believing love and intimacy would grow hand in hand. But after 10 years—four of them in a completely dead bedroom—I’ve realized I can’t keep ignoring my own needs.
Before marriage, my then-girlfriend (now wife) wanted to explore intimacy together. I held off, saving myself for what I thought would be a lifetime of passion. But things changed after the vows, and I’ve spent years hoping, waiting, and yearning for a connection that hasn’t come. Even something as simple as oral intimacy—something I dreamed about—has been off the table entirely.
Now, I’m here because I’ve realized it’s OK to want more. I need more. Not just sex, but passion, laughter, that shared thrill of sneaking away for a stolen moment. I’m still figuring out what my desires even look like today, but I’d love to meet someone who can help me rediscover that side of life.
Who I Am:
I’m 5’6” with an average build. I work out three times a week to stay healthy, and I love the little escapes in life—travel for work, a good conversation over coffee, or a quiet dinner with someone who “gets it.” I’m originally from India, though I’ve lived in the U.S. for 25 years and call Minnesota home.
I’ll admit, I can be a little shy at first, but once I feel comfortable, I’m all in. I’m thoughtful, curious, and passionate about truly connecting with people. And while I may not have the most experience in intimacy, I can promise you this: I’ll make your pleasure my top priority and leave you smiling every time.
What I’m Looking For:
I’d love to meet someone who’s in a similar situation—maybe married or partnered, maybe not—who’s missing the spark in their own life but doesn’t want to disrupt everything they’ve built. You’re likely educated, confident, and just as eager for a connection that feels exciting, natural, and safe.
Physical appearance isn’t the most important thing to me—what matters is kindness, emotional depth, and a willingness to be real. If you love to laugh, can sneak away for a lunch or getaway, and enjoy thoughtful conversations about everything and nothing, I’d love to hear from you.
Why I’m Here:
I’m not proud to be here, but I’m not ashamed either. After years of patience, I’ve realized it’s time to take a step toward what I need. I’m craving human touch—both the physical kind and the emotional kind that makes you feel alive again.
Discretion is a must, and I’ll never cross boundaries you’re uncomfortable with. I also want to say upfront that I’ll never ask for explicit pictures or send any myself until we’ve built trust and met in person. I’d be happy to exchange photos after an initial conversation, but for me, the real connection starts with words.
Let’s Connect:
If any of this resonates with you, send me a message. Tell me about yourself—what you’ve been missing, what makes you laugh, or even the little dreams you’ve been holding onto. I’m here, ready to listen, and maybe, just maybe, ready to help us both find what we’ve been looking for.
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