I am 55 years old, educated, fit, handsome, and active. I'm also married (29 years), children are grown, out of the house, out of college, and doing quite well. I live in the San Francisco bay area and seeking an erotic pen pal and confidant for occasional emails, audio-chats, video-chats (both dressed), and I'm also open to occasional one-on-one virtual reality meetups. If local, we can also enjoy occasional meetups for coffee.

Sure, I get hit up on by women in my real life, but most would most certainly are not seeking an erotic pen pal, as I don't want to wreck my good marriage. You can glance over my Reddit Profile to get an idea of my fantasies as well as my past real life sexual adventures.

If you are dissatisfied with your existing marriage I suggest you Google and check out "How to Save Love With Pessimism" a short (3:39) video, where their essential message is: The deep secret to love is that there is no right person.

Hopefully, the video will leave you in a more mindful, present and inspired state, as we shouldn't spend our valuable time complaining about our petty marital trials and tribulations.

The part of that short video that both of us should focus on are those "perfect beings, we can imagine them very clearly, but, tragically, thay exist only in the upper atmosphere, and never down here on the earth."

That said, have you found that sex with someone is not always as good as hot and steamy fantasies?

But do you sometimes feel alone in the world because of this belief?

Reflect for a moment: the arts enjoy enormous prestige in our society, while masturbation certainly does not. And yet there are some fascinating correlations between the creativity, focus, and skill involved in both processes.

The classical theory of the arts -and masturbation, holds that life will never provide absolute perfection. And the task of the artist, and the masturbation aficionado, therefore is to edit reality, and then visualize and compose an ideal, from the raw material of life.

In the arts, that which is dispersed in reality, is beautifully gathered into one. There is something of the same maneuver in masturbation, but the fantasy we're masturbating about may not so neatly appear in one place in life, but where we can skillfully condense, correct, combine, and add and subtract, we enable ourselves to get to our goal. Masturbation is, in many ways, art's equally created sibling, and truly one of the miracles of the universe.

Think for a moment and consider my proposal, one that will allow us to enjoy a hot and erotic friendship that is completely safe and completely free of moral complications.

Expressing our erotic ideas and joys of self-pleasure can prove to be both racy and fun, and yet still be a class act. And our naughty-lite secret life can flourish, without damage to any existing relationships. Contact sex these days is fraught with risk, and can have a devastating effect on an existing relationship.

We'll keep in touch, to rekindle, to fill those temporary voids. When two become intimate, over time their relationship develops and cultivates unique and exciting customs and habits. And more so with an erotic pen pal, where the level of intimacy is elevated.

Auto-erotica, a most basic of biological functions, takes on an entirely new meaning when one finally connects with their true erotic pen pal and soulmate. Masturbation does in fact become far better and more deeply satisfying than partner sex. And as erotic soulmates, together, we'll create our own beautiful alternate universe, becoming shameless and proud, even boastful about our very private skills and adventures.

There's nothing like masturbating to an intense orgasm, falling into a deep sleep afterwards, and awakening an hour or two later, or the next morning, with a feeling that is beyond peace. Yet, for most of us, this experience is accompanied by a post-masturbation depression (or guilt, as interpreted by some).

But sending a quick, enthusiastic email to your erotic soulmate, boasting about your mind-blowing experience... and your erotic soulmate warmly responding with unconditional acceptance, encouragement, and praise. And any post-masturbation depression instantly evaporates, turning into pure exhilaration and shared joy.

We will become quite smug in our belief that we have achieved mastery over the raging libido in our minds and bodies, and have risen to higher spiritual and metaphysical levels of auto-erotic nirvana and intimacy.

You will not be disappointed. After we correspond and begin to trust each other, just so we can know each other better, I can provide you with links to many of my fun activities and projects (not at all sexual in nature), as I'm active in the world.

I will seriously consider a woman of any adult age, size, height, race, distance, and physical condition.

Think about it. When you encounter an opportunity in life that feels right, you owe it to yourself to check it out.

But what are your thoughts on this? I'd love to hear from you.