If you're anything like me - and I hope you are - what you miss most is the delicate touch and caress of someone that actually cares about your pleasure, someone that wants you to feel desired, wanted, cared-for and maybe even loved. You miss the build-up, the extended foreplay and just being pleasured for hours at a time. But it's not just about sex.... There HAS to be that emotional connection, too. That's the reason that you want that one person so badly. You feel that strong pull, the animal instinct and you just want to share yourself completely with that special someone.

I can't help wondering if we all have our own different ideas of what this "spark" is that everyone talks about. For one person, it might be as simple as the excitement of those "Good morning" messages every day but for others, it could be the mere touch of a lover that makes you feel safe and comfortable but can also take you to heaven and back.

I HAVE been here before and I've felt all of the above and I need it back. The hole in my life is just too unbearable and I need it filled again by someone that understands and wants the same.

Me: Very tall, respectable, respectful, mature but fun, physically fit, athletic build, very high libido and mechanically VERY capable, neatly bearded, blue-eyed and very easy on the ear. I seem to have matured like a fine wine and I get noticed far more than I ever used to. I'm fully OPSEC-compliant, tested, responsible, DDF, open, honest and totally discreet and also a very consistent messager. Available at all hours so you'll never be left on read. Interests include the usual outdoor pursuits, reading, writing, a little piano skill, finding interesting podcasts and I love just driving.

You: Age is unimportant but please be emotionally mature, intelligent, confident, comfortable in your natural self, married or in a LTR, willing to meet (eventually and if it feels right) and capable of meaningful conversation but with a firm understanding of sarcasm and playful piss-take.

I HAVE got a lot to give to the right partner when we fully connect so let's just get to know each other, get comfortable and, hopefully, we can be secret lovers. X