I'm looking for a friend with benefits.
Emphasis on the friend part, where we go slow and take some time to get to know each other.

Me: 48, Married with kids. Intelligent - I've been told I'm good looking. Well kept beard. I'm fit, and get active outdoors on the weekends so can create space. I'm good company, kind hearted and a great conversationalist. Established in my corporate career, easily amused and love to laugh. I enjoy talking about the mundane to the insane. I'm open and generous, willing to listen and flex to understand different points of view without judgement.

You: Around my age, married, attractive, intelligent and kind. In Perth or at least South Western Australia. A curious and open minded nature on all fronts. You enjoy the journey of getting to know one another and can make the time to do that. Probably not happily married, but also not looking to blow that up. You should like the feeling of baring your soul to another and the joy of being seen. You should not be a prude but not a sex addict either - somewhere in between and can float between the extremes.

You need to have the time and attention span to talk.

We both need to feel desired and share our inner thoughts.

I want to hear about your day and tell you about mine. I want to make you smile and laugh.

I want to give and receive advice on challenges we face.

I want you to be blunt and ask for what you want and I'll do the same.

I want us to be emotionally available and vulnerable.

I'm not your therapist, and you're not mine... but we sort of are.

I want to be exclusive at some point, but we'll both know when that time comes.

I'm looking for the long term. you should be too.

I can't offer online only - it isn't enough. I am interested in meeting in real life when the time is right.

We'll exchange safe pics before a meet on a different platform (Telegram) once we establish mutual interest.

No ghosting. If it isn't working out let's talk about it and depart on respectful terms.

We both have a lot to lose, so should take security and privacy seriously.

If the above sounds like something you would like to explore, I’m looking forward to meeting you!

Send me a message. Let’s talk. I promise It will go smoothly despite laying out all these expectations.

To kick us off - let me know: What is your favourite meal... and why?

Talk to you soon!