I've been lurking on this page for a while, and now I think it's probably time for me to make my first post.

I'm a 47M, wife is early 40s F. We have, and have always had an amazing sex life and have been a couple for 20 years. We communicate openly about what we want, what feels good, and what doesn't. We are totally into each other.

My wife has openly discussed some Bi feelings that she has, and we love to talk MFF stuff when we are having sex. Neither of us actually want to have 3rd person in the bedroom with us right now, but we love to talk about it, it's a lot of fun for both of us.

I have always enjoyed anal play, and my wife likes to stimulate me in whatever fashion feels good and right for the moment. This eventually lead to a pegging session (which was something she initially brought up, and I felt weird about her bringing it up, even thought I definitely wanted to do it). Since then, I've been having more and more bi fantasies, that always include my spouse. It really turns me on like nothing ever has before.

So, last night we were together enjoying some alone time, talking about pegging, the positions she wanted to try (she wants to do it doggystyle, which I told her I'm not totally into, but if she wants to, I would do it), and just hot stuff in general. I've been thinking about it for months, and I asked her if she thought that our sex life is so good because we are both a bit more Bi than the average couple. She immediately was like "definitely" and then just moved on. Granted, we were in the process of having sex, and we were doing the standard type of steamy talk that works for us, but it really struck me how quickly she answered and it was like a non-thing to her. So I'm not sure why I felt the need, but I wanted to circle back on the idea and make sure she knew what I was saying. So I asked her how she felt about me saying that, and she was just like (I'm paraphrasing) "I feel affirmed. I've always known you were really comfortable with guys, and that you weren't even the slightest bit homophobic or anything." And things went on normally. I felt great and we both finished, and we had a great snuggle and fell asleep. We woke up Monday morning and it's a totally normal day.

I'm not trying to be dramatic at all, and overall I just feel content, happy and relieved. I have to admit, part of me feels like I came out to my wife, and she was like "well, duh, of course you are" which is fine and makes me smile and feel good (and also fortunate especially compared to folks whose experiences are not like this). But I also have some more feelings that I'm messing around with inside my head today that are making a tad difficult to concentrate at work.

I don't know if it's waste of time and energy to think about "am I Bi or not"? I'm literally the only person on earth that can accurately answer that question. Do I fantasize about sex with men? Yes. Do I find men sexually attractive? Yes. Like in all seriousness, that's a complete list of what I know as a fact in thinking about whether or not I'm Bi. I also feel like I started telling the one person who matters most to me that I think of myself that way, and she was totally cool with it. But *also* I feel like I want to have like a serious acknowledgement of what we discussed, so that she understands how good it makes me feel that I said this to her and everything went as smoothly as it did. I also want to start bringing MMF dirty-talk into our repertoire. I know she's not gonna freak out or anything (I suspect it will really turn her on of course), but I am nervous still to tell her that we should be sucking a cock together while we fuck. That's my ultimate fantasy and I want to bring it up (I'm sure I will eventually), but for whatever reason I don't feel 100% safe, even though I do feel like I started talking about that path last night.

Anyway, that's my story. Thanks to everyone who contributes to this page and keeps it positive. I know my story is basically the easiest path anyone can imagine on this journey we are all on. I hope everyone gets to feel as content and loved as I do, and feel completely comfortable in their own skin. Your comments are welcome. Thanks again.