Yeah, like most bi guys, I have a Grindr acct and hate to admit it. The options otherwise aren’t great. We as a couple love MMF and I have looked and longed for a truly bi guy who is friendly, intelligent and open to only friends at first to get on my radar. This is difficult at best (I also had a Fetlife acct but deactivated it just because I get tired of reading posts there.)

I got the typical stupid messages in Grindr, the cock pics, the ‘I wanna join’ from blank profiles.

So I changed to stating very bluntly ‘friends only at first with both of us.’ I changed also the settings to friends only. That killed the rampant pathetic messages. Very few cock pics. A few actual decent messages but too young.

My view: guys do read at times.