Good advice. I like your comment about sexuality not being a threat to monogamy. That speaks to me. She’s pretty rigid and opinionated and I think leans towards anybody in the world can be what they want except her husband. Lol. But I will try to feel her out in some other ways.

Or feel her up, in other ways. That works too. Lol

I am getting the feeling my wife will fall into this category when I find a time to tell her.

Thank you very much. I really want to. Just to be seen. It has no effect on our relationship as far as monogamy goes. I don’t want to open up the marriage or experiment with men. But her insecurities may take over. I don’t know. The fear of her judgement is real. I haven’t been able to decide if it’s worth possibly ruining my marriage and everything that goes along with that, just to be seen. I’ve never told anyone and it weighs heavy. It would mean everything for her just to know me the way no one else does and be able to be honest. She is a strong, smart and beautiful woman, so I have faith she’ll be able to process this, but there’s so much at risk. Lol. I’m rambling. Sorry.