I am a wife (47f) of a bi-sexual male (50m). Though he told me a couple years ago, which he hid it for 30 yrs. That was a huge step for him. We have been together for almost 15 years, married for 9. We have recently started using strap-ons, and he has sucked my “girl cock”. I am still learning when using the strap-on. We both have our toys, but also a toy we use together. My husband has voiced desire to have a boyfriend, and I have said no. However, I am finding it be unfair - to make him feel like he cannot be his true self because of my own insecurities. I know that my husband loves me and at the end of the day he will come home to me. Before someone mentions therapy - I am working that angle already. Because of previous relationships and infidelity (boyfriends cheating on other woman), the fear rises. I keep asking the same question - is it cheating if my husband has a boyfriend and me know about it? Or is it supporting his desire to be himself?